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2023.05.28 18:30 GreyNose6 22 [M4A] I’m horny and want head

Pretty simple request, I only ask you have pics of yourself and within 18-27 years old. Also helps if you’ve been previously active on reddit, I won’t respond to people who just made their accounts this week
I’m 5’10 Black Decent shape(Can send pics over dm) and DDF
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2023.05.28 18:29 Taiwanelm Anger and sadness being suppressed.

I have a therapist who does EMDR with me, with an IFS methodology, We do the EMDR and sometimes break into talking to parts. She is a newer therapist and isn’t fully trained in IFS, she says because of difficulties getting into Level 1. I also follow IFS, I have unburdened some parts on my own by following Dick Schwarz’s videos in the IFS circle and Continuity program.
So this is an experience in my EMDR therapy that has cropped up twice so far. As we go through EMDR of some memories, I have strong suppressive part(s) that stop me from feeling emotions. We are processing my most difficult memory, and it has such a lot of emotional aspects: shame, betrayal, anger…. I am trying to come up with positive cognitions for this memory.
I tried the positive cognition, I can protect myself. But it didn’t fully stick. Because I really want to protect myself in this memory and, somehow I can’t. I tried rewriting the memory by acting on my anger, and I got part way, and the angry part really wants to rush in, use fists and angry, loud words, and really show my anger. But this is the issue, another part comes in and stops me, saying, you can’t do that, you will be a bad girl again.
I could use the words, ā€œI can surviveā€ as a positive cognition, but another also part is unsatisfied with this because they are tired of accepting that I continue to be a target of ridicule, the unfairness of it all, by simply enduring and shutting down.
It’s like a catch-22, the whole memory is about someone creating a situation to ridicule me, deliberately shaming me, and at the same time, giving others permission to treat me in the same way. Kind of like teaching me my place in life and okaying that I deserve this type of behaviour. I responded with self suppression, zoning out and closing off my heart. But again, when I tried to act out angrily and rewrite the end of this memory, another suppressive part shuts down the anger, because I will the the bad one gain, and again seen as the problem. And that feels bad too because I want to feel self love and self respect.
These suppressive parts seem quite strong and I don’t have a good way to visualize or reach them, what I struggle with today is that they just seem to be there and blanket things, and stop me from feeling. I mean, suppression was my main coping mechanism growing up, and saved me a lot of grief. Acting on anger or feeling anger really would have gotten me in trouble back then.
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2023.05.28 18:29 Reddtgod Trying to go home

Hey! Just wanted some advice don’t know who to go to, or what to do at this point. I moved down from Dublin to Waterford almost 2 years ago for work, with a plan in mind but unfortunately it didn’t go to plan, so I mm trying to move back home to Dublin where I grew up my whole life, but now I’m stuck down here because of the rent prices.
I’m 20 currently on a 25K salary and I’ve done the maths over and over I genuinely don’t think I’d be able to move back home, then I was thinking hap, I’m not sure how long that takes to be approved considering the social housing list was a 10 year wait last time I checked.
And I know that if I apply for hap what’s the chances of me finding a place landlords aren’t allowed to say they don’t accept it but still they can just do the viewing just to keep me quiet.
Obviously in Dublin the rent is really expensive but the salary is slightly more then what it is here, the 1 bedroom apartments are the same price as a bedroom, so idk I’m really lost, I’m just getting home sick at this point.
Feel like fighting a battle I can’t win
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2023.05.28 18:29 azucarleta Hey Fiona, I wish you would have said something supportive about the Free Britney movement

Calling you in, girl, because I love you.
Why now? I have severe alexithymia, so that is partly why I only realized recently that it kinda hurts my feelings you never said anything. I love that you were there for Sinead O'Connor; I cried so much about all that. I love that you were there for Kesha; god so many tears. I love that you are there for all the people being shuffled through court (I've watched that sad parade myself, too). I love that you shoot your mouth off with good reason way more than most people, much less famous people; you take risks and I love it.
And you're so honest. And so sensitive.
So I get confused and a little hurt but not sure why thinking about why you told the Guardian you just didn't know much about the Free Britney movement, like, no comment basically. It's only now that so much time has passed that it hurts to read that. You and she are basically neighbors, nearly the same age, came of age in the same industry at the same time, share so much in common, like no need to list all the ways. So I'm not sure how to take or believe you didn't know much about it. Or haven't learned about it since. It was was/is a human rights movement with one of your peers at the center during a time when you are focusing so much on human rights and legal issues (thank you for doing that).
I forgive that you may not have known what to say then, OF COURSE. It's so fucking complicated, it's not easy to know what to say. So, let's forgive the past and look forward. Britney still hasn't seen justice, like nothing. Her fucking captors are still free and Britney's explicitly stated number 1 need is to see some accountability for those who abused her. There is ongoing civil litigation, but really no indication that any criminal investigation has even begun. The Los Angeles District Attorney, and the Clark County, Nev., District Attorney's should be pressed to answer questions about whether and what they are doing in terms of investigating Britney's father Jaimie Spears, mother, brother, and her former enslaver Lou Taylor, who is a serious risk to other young women in the industry ongoing to today in her position at Tri Star Sports and Entertainment.
Your younger peers in the business, and beyond, need some help here. Britney is onward and upward but the predators are still free, one of whom is well positioned to harm or capture other young women breaking into the same industry you know is so predatory. Would you please look into the situation using your contacts -- you must be separated from Britney by only a degree or two of separation a million ways -- and just take a stand. It's not too late, I say. We need a criminal investigation of Lou Taylor, Larry Rudolph and the Spears family, that's the present state of things and where you can begin your considerations.
As you know, folks with mental health issues or even just queer, sensitive behaviors are at extra risk of being abused and Britney's story is so emblematic of that.
Thanks Fiona. I love you so much.
#JusticeforBritney
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2023.05.28 18:29 Prestigious_Fan_1061 For those who can’t sleep after the Quake

https://youtu.be/Lo2qQmj0_h4
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2023.05.28 18:29 Gooses_are_evil Mum found out I relapsed

She literally said "You know that scars" and "You need healthier ways of expressing yourself". While still forcing me to go to my judgement grandparents who called my old sh "Just scratches" and saying it was something that "They didn't impact it at all therefore don't hold responsibility for it" Hahaha hopefully I can get out of this as I cant handle more of this tish.
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2023.05.28 18:29 MrNavinJohnson Nepotism; My First Chat with AI

I wanted to discuss the topic of Nepotism today and rather than throwing out a random flag here on conspiracy as per usual, I decided to give AI a shot today.
It felt dirty and I've had no desire until today to open this door, but like someone's Grandma once said, "you don't know until you know."
Here's how it went for my first three free questions to Chat GPT:
ME: Is there an occupation or profession in the world where nepotism does not have a major influence upon the selection of those who work for an industry or company?
AI: As an AI language model, I cannot definitively say that there is a profession or industry where nepotism does not play a role in the selection of who works there. However, there are certain fields that may be less susceptible to nepotism due to their strict requirements and objective evaluation processes. For example, professions in medicine, law, and academia typically rely on extensive education, training, and standardized testing to determine qualifications, which may reduce the influence of nepotism. Additionally, some countries and organizations have policies that prohibit or strictly regulate nepotism in hiring and promotion, which can help mitigate its effects.
ME: Can you be specific in your claim and site examples of how professions in medicine, law, and academia typically rely on extensive education, training, and standardized testing to determine qualifications, which may reduce the influence of nepotism, and to what degree this is mitigated?
AI: In the field of medicine, individuals must complete rigorous academic programs and receive extensive training before being able to practice. Medical schools require high academic achievement, rigorous entrance exams, and often interview processes to determine who will be accepted. After medical school, aspiring doctors complete years of residency training, pass rigorous licensing exams, and undergo evaluations to ensure competency and professionalism. This process ensures that the selection of doctors is based on objective criteria, rather than nepotism.
Similarly, in the legal profession, individuals must complete a rigorous education and pass a bar exam in order to practice. Legal education typically involves earning a law degree from an accredited institution, which requires high academic achievement and passing a standardized entrance exam. After earning a law degree, prospective lawyers must pass a bar exam to practice law. This rigorous and objective evaluation process reduces the influence of nepotism in selecting lawyers.
In academia, individuals typically must earn a PhD and demonstrate scholarly achievement before they are hired as professors. PhD programs often use standardized exams (like the GRE) and rigorous evaluation processes to determine who is admitted. After earning the degree, candidates must demonstrate scholarly achievement through publications and other achievements in their field before being hired as professors. These objective requirements and evaluations help reduce the influence of nepotism, although it certainly still exists in some cases.
While the rigorous standards and evaluations in these professions do serve as barriers to nepotism, it is important to note that the effects of nepotism are not completely mitigated. In some cases, individuals may still receive preferential treatment due to connections or family ties. Additionally, it is important to remember that these professions are not immune to other forms of bias or discrimination that may affect hiring and promotion decisions.
ME: Is there evidence to support that those groomed into top positions within their respective fields are provided access to better guides through said challenges along the way, and that after these rigorous challenges are completed satisfactorily within each example sited above, that this is where the power of nepotism lies; regarding the hiring and promoting?
AI: There is some evidence to support the idea that individuals groomed into top positions within their respective fields have access to better resources and guidance, which may provide them with an advantage over other candidates. For example, individuals who have grown up with parents or family members who are doctors or lawyers may have access to better resources and guidance throughout their education and training.
However, it is important to note that the rigor of the challenges and evaluations that individuals face within these professions is designed to minimize the influence of such advantages. The evaluation process for these professions is typically standardized, and the criteria for success are objective and well-defined. While individuals who have had access to better resources may have an advantage early on in their education or training, the rigorous evaluation process and objective criteria for success mean that only those who are truly qualified will succeed in obtaining positions of power within these fields.
Regarding the hiring and promoting of individuals in these fields, while nepotism can certainly play a role, it is generally considered to be unethical and can even be illegal. Most professions have strict regulations and codes of conduct that prohibit the use of nepotism in hiring and promotion decisions. In many cases, nepotism can damage the reputation and integrity of the profession, and as such, is typically discouraged.
CONCLUSION: I guess what I set out to prove was that there is no magical no-pass line when it comes to Nepotism and Quid Pro Quo in the selection of who makes it to the top within any single industry. That question came up this morning while reading an article on the WEF and observing how ludicrous it seamed to me that anyone believes that any of them has any interest at heart beyond their own frenetic self-interests and that the sheer audacious postering of NGO's as decission-makers when it comes to matters of world economic, political and health issues.
I clearly had time on my hands this morning. Just wondering what your thoughts on Nepotism are and if the dumbing down of the American educational system had everything to do with those standards AI was so quick to point to were the main gate-keepers to positions like medicine, law and politics.
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2023.05.28 18:29 JumpRopesAndLove words of realness

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Funny how half or more of the posts in this sub are from people who are being abused asking themselves if it's their fault.
Abusers don't sit around thinking they're the bad guy. They always think they're right.
crazy how amanda never once thought she could ever possibly be the only abuser she could only ever even admit to being abusive while saying i was too. i used to take all responsibility for everything completely by myself without any blame on her. she has reverted to the opposite of that many times after "understanding" the weight of her actions for extremely short amounts of time.... thats also likely a reason why my psychologist believed me so readily, i can actually take responsibility.
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2023.05.28 18:29 mas263 Who do I submit a sighting report to?

Sorry I’m new to the sub. Always been a skeptic but last night I saw the weirdest thing I’ve ever seen in my life and there were multiple witnesses that saw it with me. I thought there was an organization that accepts & tracks reports but I don’t recall the name of it. Can anyone suggest who I should submit my account of last nights events to to?
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2023.05.28 18:28 Jlaw118 Has anybody on here ever been to see a clairvoyante?

What was the experience like?
My girlfriend’s mum occasionally sees one, says it’s fascinating what they know about her and the signs predict. Weirdest one was she went to see one last July, said somebody close had a baby boy on the way. Few weeks later we found out we were having a baby, to surprise, a boy!
But I also used to talk to a work colleague about this, who was telling me they tend to do a bit of investigating beforehand, or can just tell by your persona. Tanned? ā€œI get the feeling you like to travel?ā€ Omg yes! Or rummage through social media pages. Shared about your grief for your lost parent, and so they just happen to know?
I’m curious about them and debating seeing one but I can’t make my mind up if they are just a crazed fad?
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2023.05.28 18:28 JMT2492 Forgiveness is the most potent and devastating thing you can give a criminal who has committed a crime against you/your family

Just my view. Forgiving someone who shouldn’t be forgiven has a lot of overlap with a person committing a crime that shouldn’t have been committed.
It also goes directly against general criminal code: you don’t forgive, you get even. And not only are you forgiving said criminal, but you are sentencing them to live with and become a part of that forgiveness. You are effectively removing a burden and excuse that criminals typically and holistically rely on to fuel their activities.
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2023.05.28 18:28 Bright-Signature-441 25 yrs going for either B.E. IT in Jadavpur University or B.Tech CSE in University of Calcutta. Don't know what to do after so many gap years and being a very old student

HELLO EVERYONE!
I passed high school in 2016 from West Bengal & I was trying to qualify NEET to get admission in a government medical college, but I didn't qualify for a government MBBS seat in all of my previous attempts. So, I also took WBJEE 2023 exam and recently they published the rank card and I got a rank under 110. So, after checking previous year ranks, I am sure I'll get into either Jadavpur University or University of Calcutta, but which one should I choose studying B.E. IT in Jadavpur University Or doing B.Tech CSE from University of Calcutta?
Will it be difficult to get a good placement for me if I start my B.tech now because I am too old and have so many gap years! I only went for college for a B.Sc. degree and spent 1 years in total in that college and during all the other years I kept on trying to crack NEET but I failed miserably. I have no option now other than studying engineering. So, which one should be best option for me?
I am already too old and during placement season if I can't even grab some good offers, I don't know what I'll do, my parents already know that I am a failure, relatives and all others always made fun of me because I failed and wasted so many years. I know that mass recruiters and few companies don't accept students with study gaps after high school, then what should I do?
Will I even get a good job offer if I worked hard during my time in either Jadavpur University or University of Calcutta? I don't know anyone who studied from these 2 universities, so I don't know much about them, I just know they are 2 of the best universities for engineering in my state. Will all companies always look down on me because I have so many gap years? What should I do? Ican't do M.Tech because I am already an old man.
It feels like I am dying inside because of my pain and insecure future and literally everyone I know including myself hates me. I know I am an utter failure. Please tell me there's a way forward and please guide me on how to secure a good job. That's all I can ask. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING THIS. PLEASE HELP ME.
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2023.05.28 18:28 white-china-owl How's my voice?

vocaroo link
Particular questions - do I sound strained/artificial when girlvoicing, and could my "boy" voice reasonably get read as female if that's what someone is expecting.
I'll just read the post description text since I don't really know what to say. This first part is me trying to speak with my "girl" voice.
For context, I was on testosterone for six years and I stopped taking it in late January of this year. I liked my voice on testosterone but I do want to be able to get into a more feminine-sounding range just for the sake of passing and blending in. I've done a little bit of voice training but I've been pretty lazy and inconsistent with it. I don't really care about having a very feminine voice, but if I could get into the lower female to ambiguous range, I'd be pleased.
And for comparison, this is me speaking in my "boy" voice and not trying to do anything to it. I think my voice has changed a little on its own since stopping hormones, but it's hard to tell. At any rate, I do still sometimes get people reading me as female even when I'm not trying to do anything to my voice, but who knows, it can be pretty inconsistent what people perceive me as.
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2023.05.28 18:28 btpie39 What doctor can help me determine if my fibroid is a problem and options for removal?

I'm 29 and my husband and I have been talking about embryo freezing. I recently got a transvaginal ultrasound as part of the related testing, and discovered that I have what looked to be a fairly large fibroid, although I don't have a good sense of the size (it says 6cm but I'm not sure if that's width or volume). When I asked the doctor (reproductive endocrinologist) if it was something to be concerned about from a future fertility perspective, she was quite dismissive and said that lots of women have fibroids and if it wasn't giving me any symptoms (it is not) it wasn't an issue.
From my independent reading, it seems that fibroids can indeed pose a big problem for many women, whether because they cause difficulties with embryos implanting or crowd out a fetus. I am nervous about the idea of just leaving it because from what I understand these things don't get any smaller on their own, and the bigger it gets, the more challenges it can cause related to fertility and pregnancy.
Who should I go to to discuss options? Is this something my regular OB-GYN can help with? I would have thought that the RE would be my best option but she does not seem interested in discussing.
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2023.05.28 18:28 Manakanda413 One of the all time great roasts of an idiot

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2023.05.28 18:28 Esotericgirl MO dealership won't give my mother the title to her car.

This is long, but please read. My mother really needs help.
My father had a contract with a dealership that has since gone out of business (buy-here-pay-here). The owner's wife also has a dealership, and my parents had been advised to pay the rest of their payments through there to satisfy their obligation. They started doing that (cash), then my father died. My mother continued to pay for the vehicle, and paid it off several months ago. During the time she was paying it off she asked them for a copy of the contract multiple times (my father lost his). They never sent her one.
They refuse to give her the title. They even sent her a letter stating she still owed money?!? We talked to the receptionist/office manager about that and she said there was a dropbox that some people had put payments into that the owner got behind on checking. Because of this, he was mixed up on some of the accounts. My mother always pays in person, so this shouldn't even be a consideration for her anyway. The receptionist/office manager said the owner was going through the accounts in question, but that she knew my mother was paid off, and they would get it sorted and she would notify my mother as to when the title got sent out to her.
This place has cameras and claims it is under 24 hour surveillance. They KNOW she's been in there and made all of her payments. We've called and visited multiple times and spoken with the receptionist/office manager, who has also stated that she knows my mother has made the final payment.
My mother is over 70 and she's been struggling since my father died. For months the car has been sitting there, because it needs to be fixed. Because she is such low income, she cannot afford to fix it through regular means. I was able to find her a program to help, but they require her to show them proof via title that she is the owner (we already explained the situation and they can't help her unless the title is legally in her name). At this point the car is just being eaten by rodents. By the time we get this sorted she may not even be able to drive it at all (the program will only cover a certain amount of damage).
I've asked the receptionist/office manager for a way to contact the owner directly and was given an email (she will not give out his phone number per his request). I have asked her to contact him and ask him to PLEASE contact us back. She said she has, but he still will not respond.
We've spoken with the license bureau, who called the dealership multiple times (for weeks), and the owner refused to talk to them. The license bureau said that the original dealership isn't showing as defunct, so there is nothing else they can do. The Chamber of Commerce couldn't do anything, the police department couldn't do anything. We don't have money for a lawyer.
What is the recourse here for my mother? Does anyone have any ideas? Please help.
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2023.05.28 18:28 ASICmachine Every city in the world should have a ā€œBitcoin Bridgeā€ that die-hard hodlers, who’ve gone all-in, can live under until hyper-bitcoinization occurs. Would you liquidate all possessions to buy bitcoin? How poor can you live today to accelerate your financial freedom tomorrow? (x-post from /r/Bitcoin)

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2023.05.28 18:27 SteinerScoutLance 30 [M4F] Ontario/Anywhere - Gentle Giant & Nerd Seeks Cat Ladies, Gamers & Geeks

Hello ladies! I hope you are having a nice day, and if not, that you find someone who can bring a smile to your face! I come to you looking for a consistent chat partner with whom I can hopefully develop an emotionally intimate relationship with. I’m open to anything that happens, but not looking to rush into anything. Let’s just chat, spend time together and see where it goes?
I’m very left leaning, child-free and emotionally available. I’m a tall, hairy and chunky boy, happy to provide pictures of myself and my cats on request! I love board games, television and film, history, animal care and food of all kinds. I am a big proponent for being active in local community support organizations and do my best to be a faithful friend. I’m far from perfect, but making other people laugh or smile is what makes my day!
I currently have three foster cats who take up a lot of my time, as I am working on socializing two of them who were born outside. We are making great progress! I’d love to meet another animal lover, as my eventual dream would be to open up an animal sanctuary that doubles as a therapy center for humans. I have an unbreakable love for animals, and faith in their ability to help us heal. I think seeing a battered, scarred or withdrawn animal come out of their shell, seeking love, attention and comfort is one of the most rewarding things on the planet.
I’m a sucker for a cute giggle or laugh, freckles, curly hair and genuine passion about what interests you. Intelligence and emotional maturity are big things for me, but I’d also love someone to watch trashy reality TV with! Tell me about your pets, your D&D campaign, your favorite movie, or your dirty little secret! Let’s get to know each other. Please give me more than ā€˜hey’ or ā€˜how are you’ to work with!
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2023.05.28 18:27 Fredchasing475 Text to speech for Apple Books?

Anyone know software that will strip DRM from e-books bought from Apple Books? I asked a similar question a few months ago and was referred to Caliber, which only works for Kindle books. (For those who don’t know, it’s legal for blind or visually impaired people to strip DRM from a protected e-book so you can run it through a text to speech reader. (Here are citations to the actual laws: 37 CFR 201.40(b)(7); 17 U.S.C. 121(c)(2).) Yes, I know I can use voiceover without going through this hassle, but I’m looking for a way to use a reader with better voices. And I’m not trying to avoid buying audiobooks. This question pertains to books that are not available in audiobook format.
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2023.05.28 18:27 heyimok2020 No longer a Bridesmaid, do I still go to wedding?

This is going to be a bit of a long story, but I will start and end with an upshot of it.
Upshot: Fiance's brother is getting married, I was chosen as a bridesmaid. I was kicked out of bridal party without being told by anyone. Invited to bridal shower (had to go to a doctors appointment I waited MONTHS for that was very needed) so I didn't go. Was invited but was never told until just now. Not invited to bachelorette. Wedding is in July.
I want to preface with this: I do not harbor any feelings towards the decision to not have me in the bridal party. My fiance (if I can still call him this) have been rocky for many months (due to change in finances from unforeseen medical emergencies - we canceled our wedding last late august). His parents don't understand why we called it off and in the end I was deemed to be blamed. I have not seen my fiance since january, except occasionally running into eachother. We still text a bit but don't talk much. Obviously, we are basically over just no one pulled the trigger so to speak.
I was not told I was no longer in the bridal party. I'm not surprised by the decision. But neither bride nor groom told me, nor any of their family members. It wasn't until I received the invitation to the bridal shower that I told my fiance I was confused. I had not heard from any of the bridesmaids about it. I was told then (3 weeks ago) that I was no longer in the bridal party and that I hadn't been since December (not surprised, plus I did not have a dress or anything so I obviously this wasn't a shock). Despite everything, I always had a great relationship with the bride and groom. A week before finding out was the groom's birthday and I saw them all and still no one had said anything. It deeply hurt my feelings not that I was no longer part of their special day (again who wants the best man's probably soon to be ex in bridal photos?) but that I had a great relationship with them and no one said anything to me.
I reached out to her family (bridal shower was a secret) and politely told them I had plans I could not change and sent a gift along and expressed that I had just found out about the bridal party issue and assured her my decision was completely unrelated to this. I asked if her or the bride could reach out to me in the new future to discuss what my new role was (as in was I still coming at the same time as my fiance - the best man - should I come with the rest of the guests? Did they want me to do anything at all still? Was I to be sat with my fiance and his family still or will I be myself at some other table?). I have followed up with the bride since and get a "yes, let's talk sometime" but never actually do.
When I went to send them a gift off their registry, I noticed the RSVP to the wedding invitation was due the weekend before. I had not received an invitation (save the date and bridal party invitation had been sent to my house (have never lived with my fiance, both still live at home - part of the reason we had to cancel our wedding). I had never received an invitation. I reach out to my fiance (who in weeks prior I expressed worry that I would not be invited) and said that it appeared I wasn't invited and asked if he knew. He said he had received the invite for the two of us back in early March and had already RSVP'd the both of us. He never told me he got the invite, that I was still his +1, that he RSVP'd, anything. (Obviously, this was upsetting considering I had been saying I didn't think I was invited numerous times before this and he had that invite and said nothing and that he rsvp'd despite the awkwardness between my family and his - but that's a him and I problem).
This weekend is the bachelorette (bride has to go away for work in June) and I only knew of it because she posted pics today.
I just don't know what to do with this anymore. I know my fiance and I are basically over. I was hoping to work things out (10 year relationship) but the lack of talking and seeing each other points to that being impossible. I wanted to be there for the bride and groom because I have know them 7 and 10 years respectively and we were very close. But the whole being blindsided, no one reaching out, and generally awkwardness between groom's family and I, I wonder if I should go at all. It just seems like I will be alone and isolated the whole time and would not be missed if I didn't attend (and too a much lesser point, while I will be very happy for them, it will be upsetting seeing his family enjoy the wedding knowing we had to cancel ours, but this is just an extra consideration that a decision will not be based on). I don't know what to do. I was trying to be a bigger person, but it seems so silly for me to attend at this point when I have been so isolated and ignored.
Advice? Am I being silly? Help!
tdlr; rocky relationship with best man has led to difficulties with potential BIL's wedding. Not sure if I should attend amidst awkwardness and blindsiding.
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2023.05.28 18:27 TheGhostOfCamus Absolute shame on PDM and establishment

I want to clarify that I am not a supporter of the PTI and do not agree with their policies. However, I strongly believe that Pakistan can greatly benefit from political stability and complete freedom from any military intervention. There is no place for the military in politics, and if you have any doubts, just look at what has happened in Sudan.
The reason I criticize the PDM is that during their time in opposition, I heard nothing from them for three and a half years except calls to keep the military away from politics and establish a Pakistan that abides by the constitution. While I agree that a no-confidence motion is a legitimate tool to overthrow a government, I ask, where are the elections? Where in heavens name are the elections!!!
l was listening to Khan's latest adress, and he reiterated that once the process of forced divorces culminates, they should take as much time as needed but then announce the elections for the sake of the country. While I agree that elections are the way forward, there are two problems that Imran Khan fails to address. First, we need elections that are acceptable to all parties involved, and they must be pristine, transparent, free, and fair. Khan doesn't emphasize these crucial aspects as much as he should. Secondly, the biggest problem is that he has backtracked on his stance against the influence of the establishment ever since the crackdown on PTI. His Haqeki Azadi's core principle was to free the country from the establishment's power and establish Pakistan as a true democracy, where every prime minister completes their constitutionally allocated term. It is incredibly disheartening to see him backtrack on that promise.
The PDM is resorting to the oldest tactic in the book, using brute force to suppress the opposition, which will never work. PTI is currently weak, and they fail to recognize the political advantage they currently possess. PTI is willing to engage in dialogue, and this is the opportune time for the PDM to come to the table and create a long-term plan that every party can agree upon. Instead, they are using ridiculous reasons like May 9th to avoid engaging in political dialogue. They may never get a better chance to engage with PTI and establish a plan that truly benefits the country.
Whoever wins the next elections, we need a political stable Pakistan that breaks the shackles of a De Facto Military rule because no matter who rules, if that person has to ask the agencies and COAS, then we might as well be living under a military dictatorship!
Let's hold elections and save the nation!
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2023.05.28 18:26 mybigfatgreekaffect the modern 'author bio' is so morally and aesthetically disgusting that it is simply not possible that anyone who manages to complete it in full can write properly

the four things you never want to know about anyone ever, namely, where they went to university (i mean seriously holy mother of jesus), what they studied there (shoot me in the fucking face) whether or not they have a cat and what their sexual orientation is
these four things form the basic structure of the modern 'author bio' which is requested prior to publication from literary journals which surely imagine themselves to have some kind of aesthetic orientation
or not??????
honestly i am all in favour of higher education, domestication, and sexuality (broadly speaking) but how can people bring themselves to write this information down like this? what is happening in their brain?? what conceivable cognitive processes can these people be undergoing when they write down the university they went and the subject they studied there in this little box to go next to their writing>?
HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE
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