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I'm 16F, my grandma got diagnosed when i was younger, around age 9 was when i understood what it is. She had a seizure recently and went to hospital and then a home for a few months but then the nhs decided that despite these regular seizures and dementia and severe mental health disorder she was diagnosed with earlier in life, we are able to care for her at home. I already mourned her 'death' about a year ago, as she is essentially just a vegetable now. she doesnt speak or anything. she is back at home with a new room which is downstairs by the kitchen and bathroom because she cant go to the toilet anymore and my parents have to wash feces off her clothes and stuff so every time i need to go down i walk past her room and it is the most horrible feeling ever like my heart is being yanked out of my chest. her room reminds me of when i was in hospital, it is so lifeless and she is just there and it makes me so upset. but i cant bring myself to talk to her, i dont think ive spoke to her in years and i know that is so so so horrible of me but i really dont know what to do i cant describe to you how bad i feel for her i honestly just wish she would die so that she doesnt have to suffer anymore. it is the most horrible feeling, and her presence just brings down everyone in my house, and my dad (her son) used to take out his upset because of her on me so i have had my own trauma and mental issues to deal with since i was 12. it is almost my summer holidays post gcse but i dont think i will be able to enjoy it to the fullest as my mum and dad now have her to deal with and give her 24 hour care whilst both having jobs. but i cant bring myself to help them deal with her and i know its bad but i honestly dont know what to do im so lost ive never felt this helpless in my life. normally i am able to figure out solutions to my problems but this time i have nothing.

Hi everyone, yesterday i let my pc in sleep mode for a couple hours, when i went back the computer was shutdown. I tried to start it, but when i was in the windows's login, the pc just totally freeze. I made a bootable usb with windows 10 on it, but when i try to format the ssd to reinstall the os, i get an error that say "We couldn't format the selected partition. (Error: 0x80070057)" . So i tried to format the ssd with diskpart during the installation, but i get an error that say "DiskPart has encountered an error: A device which does not exist was specified."
I tried to "chkdsk" and it say that "Windows has checked the file system and found problems", but if i try to type "chkdsk /F" i get an error that say "windows cannot run disk checking on this volume because it is write protected".
I have pretty important files on the ssd, but i need my pc asap, i can format and re install the os.
I don't know what to do, i hope in y'all help guys :)

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I beat the game a while ago on Xbox and kept it on my hard drive. I want to go back to the game now and rewatch it in chronological order. However when I went to it on Xbox Series X, it said that there was a 25 GB update to it, and it downloaded it all. Now the total file is 31 GB.
Was there actually an update? Or does Xbox stealth delete games in the background sometimes?

I imagine an automotive adhesive is be my best bet, what kind is ideal for this job? What other options could I consider, and any advice for prepping the area before repair? Its a clean break with no missing chunks.
Thank you
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So i just beat stalker lost alpha revisited and spent like 400 hours completing it all, it was incredible.
Now im on to new mods. But the story is all the same confusion.I dont think ive ever played a less clear singleplayer campaign in all of my gaming history.
When you go to aprogram institute and the dude is like "HELP WE UNDER ATTACK" (the one where you need to save mole).. It is just so profoundly unclear on what you need to do. The developers think its a good idea to send a 2nd nearly-impossible-to-beat military wave and helicopters to kill mole and break the game apparently. This part just seems so wrong to me. MOLE IS AN IMPORTANT NPC WITH QUESTS AND WHATNOT. Yet they just march him to his death into a death helicopter?? WHAT THE EFFING FK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO HERE.
And OGSR makes it even more confusing by blocking off the ladder to the underground (the one mole brings you to).. AND THEY EVEN BLOCK THE STAIRS GOING DOWN nearby.. So i guess i have to trudge back through the wave of military reinforcements??
Its almost like the developers took the game out of its package at the last minute before mailing it off, and deleted 50% of the games quest waypoints before they shipped the game, just so it would be more confusing.. AND not one single mod tries to adress any of this trash? Have you ever considered telling the player where they need to go? I dont think ive ever used google more in a single video game. The people who made this game expect the player to be psychic or something. Not one single quest unfolds in a logical manner.
Stalker is such an incredible atmosphere, but i honestly hate anything related to the developers trying to do something. Its always so unclear and just wrong feeling. The whole campaign just feels like you are doing something incorrect from start to finish. Sidorovich at one point even says "you dont have to come all the way back here, bring it straight to barkeep" and you are like OK COOL SO THIS GAME IS LOGICAL. Then the second you spy on a mob in garbage the game says RETURN TO SIDOROVICH.. So its like wtf? This game is a hot mess.
The game is like an amazing sandbox with vehicles and beauty. Hampered by artificial shallow systems like radiation, anomalies, bad scripts, bad missions, invisible walls, blocked passageways. It feels like old cheap game stuff is holding back a newer-feeling-game. Just so much Artificial suffering. Not even bethesda quests are this interfuckulated
and the mods just make it worse! They try and pretend its a realistic game! You cant just remove 90% of the players health from the vanilla game and say "realistic" When you figure out a way to make AI stop stop being able to shoot through bushes, and yaknow...MISS SHOTS EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE. Then and only then do you have permission to make the player die in 2 shots
I hate AAA games, i despise call of duty, but theres a reason millions of people play cod and only hundreds of people play stalker. There needs to be a balanced middle ground. Having 700 save games in a single playthrough on the easiest difficulty is not a good video game.
Are there any mods that just use the stalker environments, weapons, sounds, and literally nothing else? Like a true sandbox with no scripts.
And i got to find a way to disable anomalies, if there was an RPG-esque solution for them i would probably enjoy them. We need to be able to disable them somehow. Seeing your car explode in the middle of a street just makes you want to uninstall the game.
A good game would say "follow the road to stay safe from anomalies".. But this troll does the opposite and puts anomalies right in the center of all the roads
im just frustrated at how close this is to being a good game. The gameworld is superior to dayz chernaurus. But the horrible scripts and missions and CLUNK make me think dayz is the better game currently
Anomalies and radiation is fkn nerdy and shallow and fake, the only place there should be radiation in the game is in those towering metal garbage piles and NOWHERE else. Stop being annoying just for the sake of being annoying
I dont even know who or what im lashing out at honestly, i just want this game to be better, its minimized right now and im going to return to playing it

Hi guys, I'm here for advice more than anything. I was with a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) for a while, and I felt like everything was going well (with ups and downs due to her depressive episodes). She wanted to move things too fast and at an accelerated pace. At that time, I wasn't too informed about the condition, but now I understand why she acted that way. She was very affectionate, the intimacy was amazing, but there were also moments that made me doubt if I should continue with this. For example, one day she literally cursed me out because I didn't comment on a photo of her hair as she wanted. Sometimes, out of fear of abandonment, she would block me and try to distance herself, and I always had to seek her out. This went on for about three months until I traveled to another country for three months due to financial matters and because I love traveling. Obviously, I had discussed this with her beforehand, and well, I enjoyed the trip. We stayed in touch during those months through chats and some calls, and until early March (two weeks before returning), she would say really nice things and I felt that she was getting deeply involved in this. So, I opened up emotionally and trusted her a lot. When I came back, I felt a certain change in her. She told me one day that she wanted to take things slowly and didn't feel that desperation to be with me anymore. The feeling was very strange and it generated mixed emotions.
I told her about it, but she explained that there was nothing wrong, just that things should be better that way and should "flow." I continued, and she moved to a house with her best friend. I know everyone will say that I trusted too much, but she told me with so much confidence that he was really just her friend, that she had known him for four years, and considered him like a brother, etc. It sounded trustworthy and sincere, so I decided to trust her. We had a date where I invited her to eat and go to the movies. We kissed really well at the movies, and well, later on, we had intimate relations. The date went really well for me because I had a lot of fun, at least from my perspective.
The big revelation and doubt:
At the end of the date, the next day, she tried to break up with me, saying that she felt "bad" about having intimate relations because she didn't like that before being in love. I told her that she also wanted it at that moment and that I didn't do it with bad intentions, that I liked her and wanted to be with her. She said it was okay, and I asked if we could try again. She said yes. However, just three hours later, from her own phone, I received a message that said the following: "Stop bothering my girlfriend, we're sleeping now. She lives with me. Please stop calling her or texting her." I was in shock when I saw this, and I asked her for an explanation, but she never explained it to me. It's worth mentioning that, even though I was upset I always spoke to her respectfully and never disrespected her, although I could have done so.
Days passed, and I reached out to her at least to be friends, but she told me she "can't have friends." I had to witness how they created an Instagram account together and a TikTok account in just two weeks. That's when I discovered that they had been involved for three weeks before I returned, which coincided with the time she started asking me strange questions about what I thought of her or our relationship. It's important to note that when we were dating, even three weeks before this happened, we made it clear that we were only seeing each other and that neither of us could see anyone else.
When I expressed myself one last time (I know, I should have left a long time ago), the last thing she said that hurt me was: "I don't care." I immediately blocked her and did a lot of research on BPD. When I did, everything she said and her thought patterns made sense, such as fear of abandonment, extreme idealization, devaluation, triangulation (putting your needs or what was fulfilled by the first person, meaning me, in second place), and the fact that she wanted to leave but also feared abandonment, so she tried to sabotage things to make her thoughts become reality. I made about five attempts to reach out to her via chat, but she's currently in the idealization phase with the other guy, and I guess I've been "demonized" by her, despite supporting her through many of her crises. She meant a lot to me, and I offered to be friends, but it seems like I don't exist to her right now.
What should I do to try to talk to her? How can I approach her when she's in the devaluation phase with me because she has another person she idealizes? I obviously don't want her as a partner anymore, but I had been spending time with her, and I don't know if I should see her as a victim of her BPD or as a responsible person who makes decisions because BPD individuals are very impulsive and often lack empathy, which explains a lot.
My question is, do they always come back? Or does anyone have an experience like this? Because they don't value anything and just discard you without saying anything... it hurts a lot.
Thank you to those who read everything. I know it's very long, but I would like an opinion from people who have BPD themselves or from former partners of someone with BPD.

Hello everyone, I am a gay guy from turkey and after right-wing candidate won today, I have finally decided to leave for good. I am starting my ms. in september in a lab that in the last two years all graduated students went to various European countries for either masters or industry jobs so I have a good chance assuming I will succeed in the ms. I will be 25/26 when I graduate in two years when I am planning to leave.
What I want to ask is between Germany and Netherlands, which is easier to get a citizenship of after doing a phd in positive sciences? I am also open to Spain but I heard that is harder.

I've been seeing this guy for 2 1/2 months. He lives about an hour away in the big city. He is very infatuated with me. Constantly say's how much he misses me, and likes me. The spark was there originally but now, I'm not feeling it anymore. I like being with him in the moment, but I can't see myself long term with him. Can I call him to break up? Obviously I won't do it over text, but driving 1hr to go see him seems like a waste of my time. If we lived in the same town, I'd suggest grabbing coffee or something. But he's so far away. What are the rules about phone call break ups?

Greetings!
Firstly, I'm an avid DIYer but not an expert, nor structural engineer. Apologies for the long post and thanks in advance!
My nextdoor neighbour is having a new shed assembled (with a new concrete base) and garden repaved by builders who seem pretty clueless. I recently replaced the fence that separates our properties and when they told me they were planning on having the shed replaced I told them to make sure they deal with the landslip first. Their garden is about 4ft higher up than ours, the last couple of meters of wall is gradually falling away and in obvious need of repair. The old shed had sunk on the side by the dodgy wall.
The issue is that my lovely neighbours are very naive, they've got a builder to do the job and assumed he'd know what he's doing (he doesn't). He has poured a massive concrete base on top of the old mess despite the old retaining wall obviously failing. We have told him about this and he said it's fine, we can sort it out later. You can't, he's bodged the whole thing, the wall needed fixing first, then a /concrete foundation was needed. There is also a large void under the corner where the falling wall/landslip is, I only noticed this after their concrete bodge was laid, but they would've found this if they did a proper job the begin with.
There's been other issues with shoddy work (The base isn't level, they've screwed the shed base into the concrete to stop it wobbling, if it was level that wouldn't be necessary) I've related all of these issues to my neighbour and said she should go to trading standards.
Am I right in thinking the builder should have seen the obvious failing wall and landslip issue/old sinking shed and either got a structural engineer to advise, or, as I said, dig it all up, built a new, solid retaining wall and then laid a proper foundation? It seems to me like he's done a quick bodge that might last a year or so and then will fail and my neighbour will never hear from them again.
Also, this builder had a company that was "Dissolved via compulsory strike off" last June and immediately started a new one, under the same name...Doesn't look good, does it?
Would trading standards get involved? Would it be a case of going to court? I wouldn't trust the builders to fix their shoddy work, it'd be best to get their money back and get someone else in to do it... The builders are coming to finish off first thing Tuesday so there's no time to talk to trading standards before then.

Just finished farming for taechun force, and now have to level it up. What’s the best and not mind numbing way to level up crafted special weapons?
I really don’t want to shut my brain off and do shuro chi for half an hour, hope to find alternatives here

Thought I'd finally come in here and share some info on the sales engineering career path. Day after day, I read on here the drama about deciding for either mud logging or environmental. I've had my stint with enviro, I've had my stint with the oil field and I liked neither. I ended up in corporate business-to-business sales engineering, and here is why I think that any geo graduate should consider it as a third option.

• Earnings potential: Make base salaries of around 80k plus commission after a couple years doing it.
• The hours:
  • Sales engineers typically put in an actual workload of between 35 to 50 hours per week.
  • 40+ hour weeks are usually the road weeks, where you'll spend about 20 to 25 hours of that time in the car.
  • If you are good with organizing yourself, it is very easy to keep your weekends clear.
• The colleagues and customers:
  • You will work with intelligent and well adjusted people. So no having to deal with felonious drillers or anything like that.
  • Interact with other engineers and scientists all day.
  • Be the comms wire between internal and external project stakeholders.
• The work:
  • Half your time is spent with admin stuff, internal meetings and working out quotes.
  • The other half is spent customer facing or in the car.
  • Typically home office based, live in your sales territory.
  • Business lunches, coffee and lots of hand-shaking.
• How to become a corpo sales engineer:
  • Think of the technology you are using at your uni lab, field equipment or at your geo job.
  • Find out which companies make these systems.
  • Apply to these companies' sales role job postings and make sure they understand that you are familiar with their tech, the market in which that tech is used (if you have a graduate level role in the industry then you are) and that you - want - to sell.
  • (!) (!) (!) Make sure that the role you are applying to actually requires a degree. You don't want to trade your degree position for just any old sales job because unitcell on reddit said that sales is good.

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Hello, I've been wondering for a long time if I was the only person who had to deal with this but now that I've found a fitting term I'm trying to reach out a little and maybe find someone who understands being the bystander of chaos for their entire life haha. For some background I'm 17, I had 3 older siblings from a previous marriage who I'll call M (oldest, 32 yo) C (about 29) and K (26, deceased) from the sake of ease. K began doing drugs at 13 and I never had a close relationship. He was violent and threatening, but rarely present at home so he was the least concerning in a way. He was imprisoned, threatened suicide a few times, and mooched off my grandma who is an enabler. He was killed this past year in an altercation at a bum park.
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M and I were very close as I was growing up, he lived at home a majority of my life and has ashergers and severe depression, as well as symptoms of schizophrenia. He had a psychotic break when I was too young to remember and aside from talking to me he was very reclusive. He eventually moved out and did very well managing a medicine delivery business for nursing homes. Then he met a girl who was involved and drugs and in an attempt to befriend her also began taking them. He lived with grandma for a while but was arrested and since then has been homeless and is completely out of his mind. It's also been found he has pedophilic and incestuous tendencies which concerns me greatly knowing he could've hurt me. (He didn't, as far as I know.)
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C and I weren't incredible close but I have good memories of her. She was somewhat functional most my life but had schizophrenia as well, when she was in her teens she started to lose her mind and would steal things and run away. She always dates incredibly dysfunctional men and is also you guessed it into drugs. (I don't recall everything she did mom and I only talked about it a little bit.). She dated a few different pos guys, ended up coming home 7 years ago after getting knocked up by an alcoholic boyfriend. She had my niece (N) and ended up living with us 2 years in which she antagonized me and caused me to be unable to have friends over. She moved out and for a while seemed to be doing well aside from a couple small incidents , getting a job as a nail tech. Two years ago she again got involved with drugs and completely ran away to the city with my niece. My parents gained custody of N, we are currently raising her. C got a beaten to the point of a brain injury, lived with us around 2 weeks during recovery, and has again run away. (When we were home alone thanks sis didn't terrify me at all). She is currently in prison but making steps toward rehab.
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This is a brief summary as I couldn't remember everything that happened. Yes I know it sounds unbelievable, I wish it was fake. Of course this has caused both my parents extreme stress and has been happening all my life. None of them accept help but take all their time. N also was traumatized by her mother and has behavior issues which take more attention away. I currently have a job and sometimes help my parents financially as they have also cost them immense amounts of money between rehabs, detox, etc. I feel I've been robbed of my teen years and am afraid to do anything that would add extra stress. My parents are also much stricter with me out of fear I'll repeat the pattern. I don't have many friends, and I worry that I've already matured faster than any peers I might later meet and will have no connection. I was always well behaved and still am, but I have missed out on a lot of experiences. I want to move out asap but I also feel guilty doing so. I forgot what my goal with this post is uh anyway there's your story.
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TL,DR: batshit on drugs .

At 20 weeks I was diagnosed with a complete placenta previa and told it was very unlikely to resolve. At 28 weeks it was still the same and my care was transferred to a specialist hospital for a 36 week planned c-section to be booked. Up until today, 31+2, I haven’t had a single speck of blood throughout the pregnancy. At 6am I woke up and went for a wee, and began gushing blood. There was no pain, no pre warning, just a lot of blood. I immediately called for an ambulance and within an hour I had been blue lighted into the specialist hospital where the delivery team were ready to prep me for an emergency c-section under general anaesthesia. They gave me a steroid injection to help baby’s lungs, and told me in no uncertain terms, that the amount I bled over the next 30-60mins would determined whether they’d need to deliver baby or not. Then I began having mild contractions. This went on until around 11am. As you can imagine, I’ve never been so frightened. Both for myself and for baby, and mostly just heartbroken at the thought of not being present for their birth. It’s now 6pm, and in a turn of good luck, the bleeding has slowed to almost a full stop over the course of the day. The contractions stopped by lunch time and baby was happy, kicking, and stable throughout. It appears that, for now, baby is staying inside me doing all the growing they can. They won’t discharge me until I’ve gone 24hrs with no bleeding, so I’ve no idea how much longer I’ll be in hospital, but I know I’m in the right place for both me and baby. It’s been a scary day but I’m just so glad the NHS have been there for me every step of the way.