I'm at the risk of sounding completely stupid here, but between it being my first time doing anything like this and autism & ADHD making it hard for me to retain information and getting conflicting advice from different people who have been through the process before I feel completely lost, and Google is barely helping.
My dad passed away on the 27th of April. He and my mum divorced years ago so my siblings and I are the next of kin. Due to brain damage, he was living in a care home under an incapacity order, and my siblings and I hadn't heard from him in years until we had that call from his social worker.
We visited the home the day after the funeral and took some of his possessions that had sentimental value, and forms that my sisters gave to his social worker. In hindsight, I'm not sure if I should have kept these, but I have the social worker's contact details. His only assets as far as I'm aware are about £11k in his bank account. He didn't own a home or anything.
I only just got his death certificate yesterday, and I've submitted a form to his bank with that attached which will close his account and transfer remaining funds (after paying off any debts) to my account, which I'll then divide between myself and my siblings. My great uncle paid for the funeral and doesn't expect to be paid back so those costs aren't an issue.
I'm just stressing and I won't be able to contact his social worker or any other professionals until at least Tuesday because of the bank holiday. How far does the social worker's role go in this situation? Is there anything else I need to do? Do I need legal representation for that relatively small amount?

Hi y'all. This is going to be an aimless ramble. Just going to write stuff down to see what it is.
I've been an alcoholic for like 10 years. Past two years got really bad. I finally hit some wall and got help. Went to the hospital, got admitted to a psych ward, got meds and help. Stayed 10 days in, which were really good.
Getting back to real world has been a bit more problematic. I drank through my savings the past 16 months. Now, I'm trying to get on social welfare so I don't end up on the streets. But it's complicated. I have a caseworker, so prolly things may turn out OK, but I'm really at the edge. My initial application will probably be denied due to complex issues. But I have enough money to last 1 more month. Which hopefully is enough for the social worker to help me get everything sorted out.
So there you have my main source of stress. I can't sleep. I have mild medication, which helps a bit but not perfect.
What about alcohol? This is a "stop drinking" sub and you've rambled on and on about finances.
Well, I have no cravings at all. I don't want to drink.
But at the same time, life seems pointless. At least when I was drinking, I enjoyed my shitty tv shows when I was plastered.
So, or guess that means I miss being drunk. I don't want to drink, but I miss being drunk. That's the title, let me update it now before posting.
I think about giving up and just moving to the streets. Like a true vagabond. Foolish daydreams. I think about ending it all. But that's just the tragi-romantic ending I hope for my story. Never going to act on it.
If it gets to the point where it seems I REALLY won't get on social welfare, I guess then I'll use my last pennies to get shit faced. Hmm.
Oh and the funny part of how the health care system tries to take care of you here? During detox, I was approached by an outpatient help organisation. It's standard procedure here that after you get released from the ward, you need outpatient treatment in the form of 1-on-1 and group councelling.
We agreed on an initial appointment to further discuss my situation (I'm not fluent in local language, so I can't do the group meetings nearby). That got cancelled as the person got sick. I approached the organisation and they gave me a new appointment with another person. I waited 2 weeks for that. Guess what. That was also cancelled coz of sickness 😂😂😂
It's been, I don't know, a month or more since my release? And on my patient file it says: "immediate councelling set up with organisation xyz". I guess I'm "fine" without councelling then. And kinda wanna just tell them off. Well, that's if or when I hear from them again. Don't get me wrong, people get sick yada yada. Just seems I've been very unlucky.
Two weeks ago I ran into a guy I met at the ward. He's been going to the meetings nearby for weeks. While I'm still waiting for the initial consultation 😁
Well, that is a wall of text. I don't expect anyone got this far. It's not the kind of post that gets traction here. But I think I just had to write something down.
Peace out! ☮️
PS. OITNB is pretty great on rewatch!

throwaway for personal reasons, and this is just gonna be a long rant so :/
I'm sick and tired of my life. I just... I don't like saying I hate my family, but I'm certainly not happy. And i'm sure I'm going to sound like a spoiled teenager by the end of this, but at this point, I don't care anymore.
I feel like I just can't live in my own house. I get stressed really easily and I'm anxious a lot and I just can't talk to anyone about it. I usually don't even know what I'm stressed about, and when I try to explain that to my parents, they just take it as me being stressed over nothing and that I don't have to worry about anything and that I should be fine. I just don't know how to express it. I just started lying about what I'm stressed about (like saying I'm worried about a test), but as soon as I finish that they expect it to be like a blank slate. Is it just me who takes a bit of time to get over stress? And when I am actually worried about something, like being afraid that I'd fail a test, I'm "going to do fine, you're a straight-A student". Like that will magically relieve all my stress, and I will still want to do well. (I'm out of school now, just using it as an example) And also, I know this makes no sense, but I hate eating in the house. My mom is the kind of healthy-only, organic-only kind of moms, which is fine, I don't mind it, but it means she barely buys anything processed. You basically need to cook or at least put in at least 10/15 minutes to make something to eat in my house, unless we have guests over and then she'll buy some healthy snacks. I can cook fine, but I just don't like being around them long enough to make something I want to eat. So I just kind of.. stopped eating until dinner. And I know it's not healthy, and that I need energy and I need to eat, but I just don't want to be around them. I'm not doing it to lose weight or because I feel like I can't, I just don't want to be around them to make myself something. I feel bad about ranting to my friends, so I just stopped. Whenever I feel like I'm starting to enjoy something with them, it gets unraveled within a week. I hung out downstairs after dinner watching a new show with my mom, but then my dad got back from his business trip and he "doesn't like TV shows" so now after dinner they've started watching movies I don't like, so I stopped watching with them. They know I don't like them, and when I leave to just go to my room, I'm "in my room all the time and they never get to see me" and if I go downstairs to do something, it's "oh, I finally get to see you!" or "oh, she's alive!" which just makes me not want to go downstairs. I just feel like a piece of cr*p, like a spoiled brat, because we live in a nice house and we get nice things but I still just don't want to be around them. I can't drive or get a job, and now that it's summer I'm in the house almost all the time. I just feel so isolated, while my brother is fine. Sorry for the stupid rant, but I'm just so tired of everything right now and I needed to tell someone

Jouciy. Pronounced Joci (her mom’s name)… named after her grandmother.. Jocelyn.
Very nice woman, got the info from asking how to pronounce her name. She joked I don’t want to know her middle name….

I've been fairly certain I need to get to the center of the Ash Twin for ages now and I'm running out of places to explore, I've nearly covered every entry and I don't know how to get to the center of the Ash Twin, I do know which tower theoretically should be the Ash twin (across from the other twin's tower) which I'd assume would take me to the center but I've had no luck, I thought maybe I had to be aligned with the other twin since I read something saying they counted as one body or something but once again nothing, I'm at a loss here, I really don't want this game to be spoiled for me but at the same time I literally can't think of anything to progress

My wife (25f) and I (26m) are faced with two options to weigh and decide. Our answer will shape the rest of our lives. This has been racking our brains for the last week+ because we want to leave our house asap and sell it.
We can either move back home to family in NJ, get jobs and save up to buy an expensive house that still needs work (the market is terrible rn in jersey) or stay here in Texas and move to DFW and have a significantly greater quality of life.
We’re an hour south of Houston right now and we hate it. We have so many bad memories here, from cancer diagnoses, wage theft, lost the people we originally came out here for etc. we live in a beautiful home but we’re house broke because the work opportunities here aren’t fruitful if you’re not a blue collar worker. (We moved to a town where everyone asks why the hell we would move here of all places)
We can go back to NJ but we would be living in my childhood bedroom with our 2 cats, dog, and snake. We don’t even know when we’d be able to afford a place to own anytime soon there. The rent is astronomical as are the median home prices. Atleast 2.2x the avg cost of a home here in Texas (New constructions with marble countertops and slate showers for sub 300k, non existent in nj for under 450-500k).
We are fortunate to not have to pay any property taxes in NJ or TX so that’s not a con in either state for us. We have both been living together away from friends and family for 6 years now. We left because I was active duty stationed in NC and she was already in college, by the time my service was over we came out here for some family that has since cut us off knowing we have absolutely nobody out here.
We want to sell the house we’re currently in because we are miserable and depressed here, due to us not being able to afford to go on trips or the lack of nightlife/activities for non child rearing young adults and the fact that we came here for reasons that I’ve since ceased. Kids aren’t in our future so we’d like to make a positive out of no kids by loving our lives and doing the things people with kids can’t do anymore like taking the random getaways that we wouldn’t be able to afford with kids.
I did the math and if we purchase a home in the DFW area, we would have it paid off in 5-7 years (2yr flex for emergency funding) and that’s barely budgeting at all tbh, we’re just very fortunate to have those means. So we just don’t know if its worth it to give up this massive financial potential and stability of our future here to appease the people that miss us. Their take on it is “you didn’t listen to us when we said don’t go, y’all are miserable, and you’re just not gonna listen to us again and go somewhere else?” Meanwhile not a single person we know our age is able to live on their own in a decent house let alone a place without roommates at all and the people saying this either have to break their back with 2 jobs to afford ends meat or they’re getting tremendous support from family that we wouldn’t have. We love jersey and it’s culture, you won’t find it anywhere else, and we can go visit as much as we want if we live out here, but if we live there we’d struggle to even exist and take the time for ourselves. The reason I keep harping on trips and vacations is because my wife and I didn’t have a lot growing up and since we know kids aren’t happening, we’d like treat ourselves to a nice lifestyle. It’s not about the area for us, we foster animals and stay inside watching anime or playing video games most days. It’s really more or less will be able to use our money how we want to instead of dumping most of it into the interest of a home that we may feel regret over buying knowing what we could have else where.
It just feels like we’re bad people if we say we want to have a better quality home and more financial freedom for a ourselves since we’re not having kids. We don’t want to spend 30 years and all of our money to pay off a house and it’s interest when we can do it here in a fraction of the time while still saving money for other things like trips and date nights. Especially when we’re so young and fortunate enough to have this be our difficult decision. We also feel like we didn’t really give Texas a chance due to the year of us being here being so hectic and challenging and dealing with cancer and surgery and a bad ISD that committed wage theft. We’ve been told that we moved to the armpit of the armpit of Texas (Brazoria county Freeport area) and we think it’s be a night and day difference to DFW. We have a family friend in DFW who swears by it and can set my wife up with a teaching position at a local charter school. Oh we’d also have to make the 26hour+ drive to jersey with two cats a dog and a snake. The logistics involved with that alone scare us, godforbid one our cats got out of the car somewhere in the middle of the trip.
So essentially we don’t know what the “right” decision is and are afraid everyone back home will hate us for not coming back after venting to them about how much difficulties we’ve been faced with since coming here even though it really had nothing to do with Texas itself, we just got a lot of bad news since being here that made us really depressed. My wife’s Grandparents cut her off when they heard we moved to Texas because they couldn’t use our Nc house as a stopping point for their trips to florida and they took it as her running away from them even though we lived in a completely different state. she’s afraid she’ll be cut off again if she tells her we’re moving again in Texas and not closer to “home”. This really hurt my wife because she doesn’t have a relationship with her father and her mother passed away so her grandparents are all she has on her side.
TLDR: A couple is deciding whether to move back to their home state of NJ and live with family while struggling to afford a home, or stay in Texas but move to the DFW area for better job opportunities, quality of life, and financial stability. They have had a challenging time in Texas with bad memories and limited opportunities, but feel like they didn't give it a fair chance. They are hesitant to give up their financial potential for the sake of appeasing family, and aren't planning on having kids. They also worry about the logistics and stress of moving their pets such a long distance. If they choose Texas, how can they explain it to their family without sounding insensitive or selfish. They’re terrified of making the wrong decision since they’re so drastically different and have a lot of holdback when it comes to moving to jersey regarding finances and not being established in a career yet.

We got together in our teens. He’s been my only romantic partner and we are both in our mid-30s now.
I love him dearly and he is a great person. However, I was clear early on that I never wanted to marry - i presume this stemmed from the bad example set by my parent’s relationship.
Even as a little girl, I hated the idea of weddings, wedding chat - and it made me feel weird that I wasn’t like other girls who dreamed of their big day. I feel like that to this day. It’s horrible and alienating but I can’t help it.
Long story short, after 15 years of being together, my SO and I got married - no proposal or big wedding or even rings. It was simply to ensure I had a visa so I’d be able to get work easier. He offered casually and I was at my wits end about not being able to work. We went for it.
I hated feeling so repulsed on the day. I was ashamed of myself. I hated congratulations from family and friends. I begged my family to not throw a party to celebrate. All the while questioning why am I like this? What is wrong with me??
I’ve recently developed a crush on a coworker (who’s based overseas - obviously this won’t go anywhere).
However, the feeling has set off an intense panic that I’m struggling with every day. I can only describe it as a constant crushing weight on my chest every time I think of the fact I’m married. I’ve lost a lot weight from not being able to eat these past few weeks. I feel completely trapped and terrified.
Is it possible to want to be with your partner and not be married? I can’t suggest divorce and just “go back to where we were”. I’m aware of how insane this all sounds.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me but if anyone reading this can just talk to me about this and offer suggestions on what I can do, it would be a huge help. I can’t tell anyone in my real life.
Tl;dr: I love my SO but have always been repulsed by the idea of marriage - no problem being in a long term relationship though. Experiencing extreme panic, anxiety and depression every time I remember I’m married. I feel like I’m crazy.

Good afternoon PFC, currently in a bit of a finance pickle. To begin I'm a 20-year-old male living in the GTA on my own, however, I am returning to college in September and won't be able to work my current high-paying job.
I have no debt other than my car which is currently at 28285.03$ of principal remaining and its 5% interest for the next 6 years (I know a lot however I needed a car within one week last May for work my only option was new unless I wanted to overpay heavy on used).
My current COL is 647.58 (student housing), around 350 a month on groceries, roughly 130 a month on gym and supplements (not up for debate to change), gas is covered by my work mileage, a mind-numbing 420.19 on car payments, and an astronomical 548.16 a month on insurance. Coming to a grand total of 2095.93 a month to live here. No, I do not have any other hobbies than the gym and hiking and no alcohol or partying.
As far as current funds go I have 1855.90 in a chequing account and 5090.55 in a Wealthsimple TSFA invested in cash.to since I don't know where I should put the money. Take-home pay after taxes is rough 687.50 weekly at 37.5 hours a week some weeks I can get over 50 hours just depends on how busy we are and I get 242.50 a week in mileage (I only use about 60$ of it on gas and the GO train). For a grand total of 3720 a month. This means 1624.07 can go into savings or any extras I want.
I know I am not strapped for cash or in too terrible of a position but I can foresee the rough time I will have once I'm having to pay big boy rent and when I return to school and will have to work for minimum wage with fewer hours, so I have a few options.

1. Keep my exact same situation as is and return to school with around 13k in the bank and take OSAP which for me is around 8k and just ride out the year.
2. Keep living in the GTA but opt for a cheaper car, my sale value is around 25k for my car which means I will need to pay the 3 thousandish difference. However, my parent's neighbours are selling their old Civic for around 7.5k which I can insure for 280ish a month. This option will wipe my saving and make me have to borrow a bit from my parents but I will have 720 a month less I will have to spend on a car.
3. Move home to live with my parents and keeping my current car, this will increase my commute time by a bare minimum of 80 minutes a day however I will be saving around 1k a month since no housing cost and no cost of food
4. Moving home to live with my parents and buy the Civic, this would net me around an extra 1700 a month. This would be massive for my savings and is the option I'm most considering.

Pros and Cons time.
Pros of Civic, not having to spend an extra 700 plus a month on a car anymore. Cons of the Civic, I absolutely love my car and all the features inside of it which the Civic just doesn't have.
Pros of moving home, getting to see my parents and saving an extra 1k a month. Cons of moving home, seeing my parents every day and an extra 80 minutes to spend commuting in the car and the train commute stays the same at around 1 hour and 40 a day.
I just need someone to either tell me what is the best course of action because I am unsure right now.
I'm also sure you're wondering why my premium is so high, my insurance address is listed as my parent's house which is in the middle of the country and not the GTA. However, this price is reflecting my G2 driver's license and a tree that fell onto my car while driving which somehow is an at-fault accident since it was only me involved even though I had zero control over it. My premium will drop Monday since I got my G yesterday.
Tldr; Keep spending more money to save 80 minutes a day commuting and driving a nicer car while living alone or move home and buy a cheaper car increasing my commute time but lowering my COL to around 500 a month.

I started a new save and I want to get all the memories. Right now it’s Davis I want to finish. So I looked how to acquire his vestiges. I need the map of Swirling Flood and Cliffs of Rust. I looked how to get those, like the merchant at Outer Crossroads and the self important revenant in the parking Garage. But the thing is even when I helped them I got nothing just ordinary items when the guide I used claimed they would give me the maps. How do I get them?

Hello hello! Hope everyone is doing well! I am back here today on my search for a like minded partner, someone who's easy going, laid back and friendly. I want to create a beautiful and long term roleplay with you! I currently have a lot of time in my hands, so I can be available mostly the whole day.
A little about me. I am a detailed and experienced roleplayer (7 years), meaning I can be crafty and descriptive. I also love to make new friends so let's talk OOC too (actually this is a requirement, please be friendly and conversable). Building a healthy chatty relationship will make it easier and nice for us to roleplay. We could get to know each other better, discuss roleplay more and drive it to our likings and more. Lastly, I like to play on Discord sooo.... Have it I guess?
I like to craft plots with my potential partner, including both of our interests to make it juicy! It also helps us to get to know how much compatible we are, our likes and interests, etc. I also like to send reference pics for the character and outfits, it just brings more life to the roleplay!
Now, I am going to leave some tropes that interest me and you can message me from any you like!
Married Couples, Arranged Marriage, Childhood Friends, Enemies To Lovers, Friends to lovers, Co-workers, Roommates, Classmates, Love Triangle.
I am probably forgetting some, but feel free to hit me up with your choice!
My ideal slice of life roleplay would be to include nice, warm, wholesome and lovey - dovey moments into the play. I really want something pure in it, I want to be smiling while roleplaying about this. The idea of two characters being so into each other, looking out for each other in their tough times, that magical touch of love into the play (if you know what I mean). Like the perfect romance, the "these two are meant for each other. These two are goals!" factor is what I am looking for. Along with that some spice, some drama, angst, twists and turns to just make it into a Netflix worthy (is that too dramatic? If so, pardon me!)
I know there are a lot of you who like the prompts to be tilted towards the fantasy side, I am up! I haven't really done a lot of fantasy prompts. I've only done modern slice of life roleplays back and forth. So, if you're patient with me, I'll quickly learn! Just have a nice prompt about it :).
That's all!
While messaging me -

• Please don't be 1-2 liner, like "Hi I am interested, Hi are you still looking". Ik you are interested and that's why you texted. Secondly, I am looking for partners as long as my post it up. I normally delete the post once I've found a partner.
  
• Stay away if you ghost literally without a cause. Seriously, it's really immature and cheap. I don't even want to get started about this. I get reached with really nice responses and then end up getting ghosted, I simply don't get why put such efforts discussing and typing such nice responses, if the true purpose is to ghost? So if there are any problems, let's talk it out like adults, I don't bite.
  
• I will literally ignore and block one liner commenters who ask me to dm them.
  
• I only rp with people around my age (18-25), so please be around that age. Don't be under 18 (and please don't lie about your age, I've faced such people.)
  
• Won't respond to new accs either, too shady.
  

Lastly, bring a prompt if you have one! I'd love to hear out :). I promise if I like it, I'll contribute my bits and pieces, or as I mentioned, the story creation is on the table!
So then! Message me with more than a "Hi I am interested, are you still looking" and let's proceed further!

I'm essentially an alcoholic when you strip away all the arbitrary "but I'm's" and "I don't's". Drinking has always been a big part of my process, I wrote a whole (albeit short) novel that way. I worry that my future projects might read as limp in comparison to the things I wrote when I was gut deep in straight vodka and beers every night.
I suppose that regardless of the state I'm in when I start something, it's still me, so to speak. My problems obviously still exist no matter whether I'm drunk or not, and so I'll likely still be able to achieve the same level of commentery without it. But still, the issue stands just the same in my mind.
I've been stuck on my novel's opening chapter for months now, and today, after getting moderately fucked up, I wrote up the bones of a decent replacement in the space of an hour that's infinitely better than what I originally had. How can I stop with results like that? Sure, in general, a person's health should always come first. But I'm not a general person. I'm an antisocial alcoholic scumbag dickhead, to put it lightly. This writing thing is basically all I have. It's my creative outlet to express the feelings I'm incapable of releasing in my real, everyday life. If I lose the booze, I'm worried I may ultimately lose myself in the process. The best, creative part of myself that I never thought I'd ever even find in the first place.
I'm obviously not Hunter Thompson or Hemingway or fucking Al Crowley, I get that, but what if I cease to be me when I move away from this turbulent, decade long period in my life? I don't even know what an alternative to that even really means. I don't think I've ever written anything in its entirety in a sober state of mind. Ever.

So I'm a cis gay man and Im sort of struggling with something. I had a crush on this one dude who I thought was also gay. I find out later on that he has crushes on women too and he's bi but that part just fully turned me off about him. I don't quite get it why though and Im guilty about feeling this way.
This also may not be the first instance? Part of my polyamorus awakening was Sense8 but for some reason, spoiler I guess? I was just really put off when Daniela joined this gay couple when they were having sex and i just felt, disgusted, I guess?
Im getting concerned in the sense that I know I am wrong in this but I also dont know how to change nor why I feel this way in the first place. It's not like I was traumatized or anything by someone who was bisexual.
I am really sorry if I hurt anyone with my admitting with this and i just wanted to ask for advice from people. Help pls?

Ever since I (22F) was young, my parents have been toxic. They are both alcoholics, fight constantly, and are abusive to each other and my brother (19M) and I. My mom specifically emotionally abused me from a young age. She would manipulate me and guilt trip me constantly, and I had always been forced between my parents fights. I was often told they couldn’t get a divorce because of me. My mom cheated on my dad last year and told me first before anyone else and made me keep it a secret. It was awful and caused me PTSD which I’m going to therapy for. Thankfully I moved away to school when I was 17, and since last year I’ve been living with my boyfriend (23M) of 7 years when I’m not at school. It’s helped me a lot to be physically separated from my parents. I’ve set a lot of boundaries with them and told them im very hurt with how my childhood was (feeling neglected, used, emotionally responsible, etc). While I’m happy to be out, my brother is stuck. He just finished college and is trying to work and save money to move out. He stays away from my parents as much as possible, but is still financially dependent on them. He’s become greatly affected by their problems and has opened up to me recently about how he has suffered with alcohol addiction. He says he tries to stop but my parents peer pressure him to drink and smoke more. My mom is starting to emotionally abuse him the way she always did to me. He’s shown me texts from her where she bombards him with useless info and makes guilt tripping comments. I try to spend as much time with my brother as possible. Me and my bf have him for dinner often and told him he’s always welcome to sleep here. His gf (18F) is also very sweet and supportive of him and I can tell she wants the best for him.
Any wise words from someone who’s been through this? I’m continuing therapy every two weeks and trying to break away from feeling emotionally responsible for my parents. But I’m very protective of my brother and want to help him and keep him safe. I’m just struggling a lot.

Hello ladies! I hope you are having a nice day, and if not, that you find someone who can bring a smile to your face! I come to you looking for a consistent chat partner with whom I can hopefully develop an emotionally intimate relationship with. I’m open to anything that happens, but not looking to rush into anything. Let’s just chat, spend time together and see where it goes?
I’m very left leaning, child-free and emotionally available. I’m a tall, hairy and chunky boy, happy to provide pictures of myself and my cats on request! I love board games, television and film, history, animal care and food of all kinds. I am a big proponent for being active in local community support organizations and do my best to be a faithful friend. I’m far from perfect, but making other people laugh or smile is what makes my day!
I currently have three foster cats who take up a lot of my time, as I am working on socializing two of them who were born outside. We are making great progress! I’d love to meet another animal lover, as my eventual dream would be to open up an animal sanctuary that doubles as a therapy center for humans. I have an unbreakable love for animals, and faith in their ability to help us heal. I think seeing a battered, scarred or withdrawn animal come out of their shell, seeking love, attention and comfort is one of the most rewarding things on the planet.
I’m a sucker for a cute giggle or laugh, freckles, curly hair and genuine passion about what interests you. Intelligence and emotional maturity are big things for me, but I’d also love someone to watch trashy reality TV with! Tell me about your pets, your D&D campaign, your favorite movie, or your dirty little secret! Let’s get to know each other. Please give me more than ‘hey’ or ‘how are you’ to work with!

Sorry if this has been asked before, I did try searching the sub but did not find the information I was searching for.
I am moving with a few dogs both are regularly treated with Advantix and will be getting the heart worm medication prevention before moving down. We currently live in Alaska and non of those things are really issues up here more moose and loose dogs. My question is how bad are the ticks, or other bugs? Will this be something I have to be hyper vigilant about?
All my friends are saying beware of scorpions and black widows but theyre also all from Alaska so I'm unsure if this is an actual major concern.

My in laws invited themselves over this weekend. Not only for the day, but to spend the night. So not only do we have to shame clean the whole first floor of the house, but also the whole second floor now too since they’re staying over.
I thought I washed the guest bed sheets yesterday and went to pull them out of the dryer but lol of course they’re still in the washer so time for a classic rewash.
Hubby (also ADHD) and I are rage cleaning the whole house and I am just DYING because not only do I not want to be cleaning, but I literally get no joy when I’m done. I’m just cleaning to host some guests I don’t want to host. So then I’ll have two days of boring, masked conversations I don’t want to have. They’ll ask me a million questions like how’s work? Oh you quit, why? It was boring? Well what are you going to do instead? Oh you don’t know? Here’s some super pointless, out of date, unwanted job hunting advice from someone who hasn’t applied for a job in 30 years. Oh by the way your coffee mugs are dirty.
Ugh why can’t I just have a relaxing weekend for once. It’s just like always fucking something going on I don’t wanna fucking do, ya know?
Oh god and the meals. Now I have to feed them too. I didn’t ask for this this weekend lol ugh.
Alright guess I’ll go fucking sweep something.

So even from my experience, I usually start anxious or secure when I meet someone I like. If they give me too much, then I lose interest and usually end it. If they keep me in a so and so state or even if they give me a good deal of affection and approval but I never manage to take them for granted and remain afraid it can be the last text or meeting, I will eventually and usually quickly go hard into anxious, to the point I can collapse emotionally if it carries on for long (it’s always mixed with how much I actually like the person, which exacerbates the application of this anxious lense that appears).
Does that mean I am both anxious and avoidant? Is it not only possible to be one of each? It is percentages?

Hi Reddit,
So I’ve been battling how to approach this situation with a friend for some time. We text daily, but I recently went on vacation for my birthday (which she forgot) and needed some space and didn’t text her for a few days. She immediately started double, triple, and quadruple texting me, in addition to calls and FaceTimes to get me to answer. This has happened before when I was sick, and she even texted my boyfriend at one point to find out why I wasn’t responding after just 1 day. This behavior of hers has caused some serious turmoil for me, as I feel pressured and anxious about responding. I feel that if I now decide to stop texting for just a few days, I can’t just pick up from where I left off. I feel like I have to give her a full explanation as to why I couldn’t respond and it gives me major anxiety. And it’s not like her texts are important. These are literally texts that ask me how my day is going or how work is going. These are repetitive texts that I have no answers for sometimes. I’m sick of the distracting small talk.
This friend is supportive and great otherwise. But man is she clingy. Well, recently I sent her a text after I hadn’t responded for a few days (after thinking about how to respond for like an hour lol) telling her I couldn’t hangout because I just got back from vacation and seeing my parents and didn’t have the energy I wanted to give. I told her I’d be dissociating the entire time (which is true, because I have a lot of stressors on my plate right now with family and my job) and wanted to hangout with her at another time. She took great offense to this and responded with passive aggressiveness and manipulative language. She said something along the lines of: “reach back out to me when you have the energy to give. I don’t want to look like an idiot for reaching out anymore. I’m very hurt by the distance you’ve caused in our friendship”. Mind you, this is all because I didn’t respond for a few days (as I was vacationing for my birthday with my family)! Throughout the vacation I even sent a few texts here and there letting her know I needed a break from my phone and still loved and missed her. I have only know this girl for a year but she has thrown the term “best friend” and “love” out so much that i have begun saying it as well, even though it makes me uncomfortable. This is our first roadblock and really might be our last because I don’t want to stay friends with this person anymore. As much as I loved talking to her, this attachment style is too much for me.
I hastily responded to her last text in an apologetic way (which I now regret because she’s left me on read) when I don’t even feel like I’ve done anything wrong. I just wanted to calm her down but it looks like she took advantage of that. I reaffirmed our friendship and told her to please not take it the wrong way but she left me on read. Now I feel like an idiot and am very angered. My boyfriend hates her (and has hated her for a while because of some other things he deems at red flags). I just feel angry and ready to end it. I want to let her know but I’ll give her a few more days to see if she replies or apologizes to me.
I come to Reddit for thoughts and opinions. Is this friend worth keeping? I have never had such a clingy friend before. She has very little friends, no family (that talks to her at least) and a rocky relationship with her boyfriend.

I had a great third date with this girl this past week and we set up a fourth date for next week. I’m feeling all the emotions because I have expressed already how I feel about her but she opens up slowly. I’ve been a little concerned about a lack of texting since the weekend started but I’m going to fight my anxiety and get out of my head and trust it is just because she is busy with friends.
On our fourth date I’m going to seize the moment though and move us away from the going on dates phase and instead move us towards developing a relationship. I feel good about this one. I can see her being my partner for life and I know from our talks that is something we are both looking for with dating.
I think it is important I stop doubting myself because if she wasn’t interested she wouldn’t have agreed to our fourth date. I know it can be difficult in the current dating culture to get to in our minds but I know I personally need to stay focused on enjoying each and every moment I get with this girl. Wish me luck!

So when I was in primary school, I attended a private school owned by my aunt. It was not so fun, I had untreated and undiagnosed adhd, I wasn’t drinking enough water, so I basically hated school. I just managed to be average. And to make matters worse, teachers were a lot harder on me. I think they were trying to impress my aunt by showing how tough they were, but year after year, the teachers were harder on me. Anyway I changed schools, moved to another private school. Here, nobody knew me. No pressure, no crazy teachers trying to impress. I was top of my class. I was now representing my school in academic competitions. At such competitions my friends and teachers from my old school were often surprised to see me representing my new school. In a particularly dramatic competition I was the one who helped my new school win over my old school. I still had ADHD, but It was a lot easier. Now I had a GC sister who was always top of her class, (gc only for academic related reasons, everything else she treated her like crap). So this new dynamic of having two kids topping their respective classes was new to her. She didn’t know how to react. I wasn’t following the script. I remember a particular end of a term where my teacher was praising me, she looked at me with this look, like pride mixed with shock, but I thought nothing much of it. That’s how The high evolutionary looked at rocket when he figured out the solution to make the species “normal”. Surprised by that this thing he viewed as beneath him could be way smarter than him. Years later we were casually discussing how my academic situation flipped when I changed schools, my own mother said “it doesn’t really matter, they were all dumb in that new school “. Imagine that, a mother willing to believe that an entire school was full of stupid kids, than to believe that her own child was actually intelligent . One of her favorite things to say is “I want you to be a better person”. But in the words of Rocket “She didn’t really want things to be perfect, she just hated the way things were and wanted to continue hating them.