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Just what the title says; honest ratings!
2013.07.12 05:05 wolverinetree Just what the title says; honest ratings!
Ever wonder what you look like to others? Post your picture here and find out.
2015.02.13 02:49 scattergraphc5daa9 Chambers: Netflix Original Series
A subreddit for the Netflix supernatural series Chambers. Anybody is welcome to comment about anything related to the series.
2017.12.11 05:15 Gorgon City
Gorgon City are an English electronic music production duo consisting of two North London producers Kye "Foamo" Gibbon and Matt "RackNRuin" Robson-Scott. Their 2013 single "Real" peaked to number 44 on the UK Singles Chart.
2023.06.04 21:58 jk-mono newgens!
Title: Newgens: Trapped in the Abyss š±šš®
Yo, I'm a Newgen, a complete disaster in "Your Bizarre Adventure" (YBA) š¤Æš® It's like the game has a personal vendetta against me! š©š I'm a total noob, struggling to keep up. šš
It's pure madness! š¤Ŗ Everyone out there is slaying it, while I stumble around like a lost soul. š«šāāļø I cry myself to sleep, haunted by my own incompetence. šš¤
My skills? Nonexistent, fam! š āāļø I can't level up for the life of me, so I rely on the busted meta just to survive. It feels like cheating, but it's my only hope! š”šš„
AAAAHHHH! š±š„ I'm losing my mind, bro! This game messes with my head, turning me into a raging maniac. šš¢ I start throwing shade at others, trying to hide my own weaknesses. It's a wild mix of insecurity and fake bravado. š¤š¤Æ
I'm stuck in this never-ending loop, desperately clinging to the broken aspects of the game. It's not real progress; it's just a temporary fix for my crushed ego. šš§
Help a brother out! I'm trapped in the abyss of being a Newgen! šµšµ I crave improvement, a chance to prove myself. But for now, I'm trapped in this twisted gaming realm, screaming in agony. š«š±š
#SaveTheNewgens! ššš
-potatoe#8684 ( totally not AI )
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Yo, I'm a Newgen, a complete disaster in "Your Bizarre Adventure" (YBA) š¤Æš® It's like the game has a personal vendetta against me! š©š I'm a total noob, struggling to keep up. šš
It's pure madness! š¤Ŗ Everyone out there is slaying it, while I stumble around like a lost soul. š«šāāļø I cry myself to sleep, haunted by my own incompetence. šš¤
My skills? Nonexistent, fam! š āāļø I can't level up for the life of me, so I rely on the busted meta just to survive. It feels like cheating, but it's my only hope! š”šš„
AAAAHHHH! š±š„ I'm losing my mind, bro! This game messes with my head, turning me into a raging maniac. šš¢ I start throwing shade at others, trying to hide my own weaknesses. It's a wild mix of insecurity and fake bravado. š¤š¤Æ
I'm stuck in this never-ending loop, desperately clinging to the broken aspects of the game. It's not real progress; it's just a temporary fix for my crushed ego. šš§
Help a brother out! I'm trapped in the abyss of being a Newgen! šµšµ I crave improvement, a chance to prove myself. But for now, I'm trapped in this twisted gaming realm, screaming in agony. š«š±š
#SaveTheNewgens! ššš
-potatoe#8684 ( totally not AI )
2023.06.04 21:58 dmslindstrcn His birthday is tomorrow and I really want to message him!!!
I want to text him so badly. I know it probably wouldn't be wise because I still have some feelings for his after he broke up with me in Jan. He did say I could reach out but I never have because he never checked up on me. I think I want to reach out for selfish purposes. I would wait until much later in the day to message him as I don't want to ruin his bday lol. This is such a terrible idea but I feel so much still and writing and talking about it has not helped nor has fixating on other hobbies. It's clear that I haven't made many strides in closing this part of my life but it's hard because I still care so deeply for their wellbeing even though I don't think they care for mine. I would love to be up and done but I've always been they kind of person to define my life by the relationships I've had and hope to have in the future.
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2023.06.04 21:58 Pink-Lover I have an odd request that just might save my life
First off, I love Galway. I visited 15 years ago because my motherās dream trip was to visit Ireland. However, a certain set of stairs by the Spanish Arch destroyed my life. Basically, I went to take a step down the stairs to the right of the Spanish Arch and I took a horrifying fall. I knew immediately that I was traumatically injured. My mother got mad at me and then instead of asking if I needed help she just said āI knew you were going to do that. Are we going to eat lunch now?ā I absolutely needed to go to an emergency room but my mother would not have anything ruin her trip. I didnāt have the courage to argue with her which is for another time.
Since then I have developed a severe 24/7 pelvic pain that has ruined me, my life, my jobā¦everything. The saddest for me is that my 16 year old daughter never remembers me any other way than disabled. I have had countless surgeries, medications, pain meds and am now feeling very scary dark thoughts. I canāt take this pain anymore!
So here is the request: mentally, I need something that is so ridiculous that is keeps me laughing until I have the surgery that works. Would someone in Galway go to the Spanish Arch and go to that first step and take a picture of your hand flipping it off? Please include the railing and that first step if you can. Then dm me with the picture? This would absolutely be the F.U. that would keep me going. I love your country, I love your city, I love your people, and if someone has the courage to take on this requestā¦I would love you too!
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Since then I have developed a severe 24/7 pelvic pain that has ruined me, my life, my jobā¦everything. The saddest for me is that my 16 year old daughter never remembers me any other way than disabled. I have had countless surgeries, medications, pain meds and am now feeling very scary dark thoughts. I canāt take this pain anymore!
So here is the request: mentally, I need something that is so ridiculous that is keeps me laughing until I have the surgery that works. Would someone in Galway go to the Spanish Arch and go to that first step and take a picture of your hand flipping it off? Please include the railing and that first step if you can. Then dm me with the picture? This would absolutely be the F.U. that would keep me going. I love your country, I love your city, I love your people, and if someone has the courage to take on this requestā¦I would love you too!
2023.06.04 21:57 brees1995 Should I tell them how I feel?
Iām debating on saying the below, but Iām wondering if itās even worth my breathe at all. What do you think?
What I will say: Hey, I decided that I donāt want to want you anymore. Iām not really sure what you want but youāve made it pretty clear that you donāt want me. You donāt want to hangout or get together and I feel like I have been trying for too long now. It was nice to meet you and I wish things were different.
What I wish I could say: I really hate that you came into my life and made me want you but then never give me the time of day. Initially, I wasnāt even interested in the slightest. It is clear you have other options that you prefer over me. If you didnāt, you would have made a move on me by now. People make time for the things that they want in life, and apparently itās not me that you want. I even was ignoring all of your red flags because I wanted you so bad and even after doing just that I still couldnāt manage to get you to spend time with me one on one. I mean, seriously, you stopped texting me a long time ago. You used to be pretty consistent with communication and it made me feel important. Now itās always on Snapchat. What are we? Teenagers? Thatās a huge red flag right there. Like what are you hiding? Iām a grown ass woman that doesnāt need a single thing from anyone. Iām also a pretty smart and reasonable person, and I wasnāt expecting anything serious from you anyways given your age and your rapport. You can keep screwing immature woman, believe me, Rosa wouldnāt shut up about you. Apparently I canāt compete with that.
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What I will say: Hey, I decided that I donāt want to want you anymore. Iām not really sure what you want but youāve made it pretty clear that you donāt want me. You donāt want to hangout or get together and I feel like I have been trying for too long now. It was nice to meet you and I wish things were different.
What I wish I could say: I really hate that you came into my life and made me want you but then never give me the time of day. Initially, I wasnāt even interested in the slightest. It is clear you have other options that you prefer over me. If you didnāt, you would have made a move on me by now. People make time for the things that they want in life, and apparently itās not me that you want. I even was ignoring all of your red flags because I wanted you so bad and even after doing just that I still couldnāt manage to get you to spend time with me one on one. I mean, seriously, you stopped texting me a long time ago. You used to be pretty consistent with communication and it made me feel important. Now itās always on Snapchat. What are we? Teenagers? Thatās a huge red flag right there. Like what are you hiding? Iām a grown ass woman that doesnāt need a single thing from anyone. Iām also a pretty smart and reasonable person, and I wasnāt expecting anything serious from you anyways given your age and your rapport. You can keep screwing immature woman, believe me, Rosa wouldnāt shut up about you. Apparently I canāt compete with that.
2023.06.04 21:57 Justasmolpigeon Would like to wear these pearls with my wedding dress, do these two necklaces fit together?
 | These were gifts from my grandmother which she acquired more than half a century ago!! She is too old to fly to my wedding but I hope to celebrate with her later in the year! submitted by Justasmolpigeon to weddingdress [link] [comments] The two necklaces are slightly different. The longer necklace has larger pearls and is slightly whiter than the other. The colour difference is difficult to see here, but the size difference is obvious! Would this difference āruinā the outfit or make them look incoherent, and should I just stick with one necklace? I was thinking of layering them āBreakfast at Tiffanyāsā style. (This dress is the one I picked, which you all must have seen now hahaha, but I got it one size up as this one was a bit too small! ) |
2023.06.04 21:56 Specialist_Idea3959 What to do for a running vehicle thatās sat for a few years
 | Hi everyone looking to ask the professionals on what would be like a VERY recommended or honestly whatever you guys think is mandatory as far as preventative maintenance on a 1998 GMC Sierra 3500 with the 5.7l V8. submitted by Specialist_Idea3959 to AskAMechanic [link] [comments] I am mechanically inclined for the most part, Iām an industrial electrician but Iāve never in my life wrenched on vehicles so I really donāt know what to do before I drive it as a daily, Iām gonna be counting on it as Iām quitting my job to try and work as a solo contractor so I would want it to be bullet proof As it sits it the previous owner said it say for over 7 years but he would tend the battery and start it every weekend. It did start and it drove the 30 miles to my home just fine. |
2023.06.04 21:56 Zealousideal-Bit-192 Vans mindset
So Iāve seen a few people upset about Van and her she was in the final episode. Her conversation with Travis and general attitude.
And like this is just me but I kinda understand how she got like this.
I grew up in a religious cult, more accurately my mom grew up in one and she started working on getting out by the time I was 14. When you are a part these places you go ALL in, when you truly believe the teachings you believe it all when the stuff other might find fucked up and if your group as a violent āGodā you will do whatever it takes so that wrathful eye never lands on you. Youāll even be cruel at times to keep others in check for that wrathful go
Van was one of the first to start believing and Liv during s1 talked about how Van js the kind of athlete that would believe all kind of things like never washing your socks you wear during a game or other superstitious stuff like that. She nearly died 3 times in s1 and started to believe it was for some greater purpose, sheās seen the ānonbelieversā die horribly. She has one moment of falter after Shaunas baby died but I can see her intense belief twisting that into another ānonbelieverā being punished(Shauna not joining Lottieās therapy and getting upset that she was whispering weird shit to her baby) tai also stopped sleepwalking when she became a ātrue believerā(I donāt think van knew it was all for show in the beginning)
So when lottie is hurt and possibly dying j can see her suddenly snapping back into fully believing than javi is āchosenā and this just reinforces what she already thinks is true. So by the time sheās talking to Travis itās cold yes but in her mind she needs to always be thankful and grateful for whatever gifts the wilderness gives them, wither itās food or getting to survive. If sheās not always grateful the wilderness might chose her next as a punishment, or take Tai away.
Than sheās rescued and sheās back home with an abusive mom and life isnāt that great and she starts to lose that faith. She gets to a point where she no longer believes(especially when she gets cancer which for her would feel so utterly pointless) than Tai comes to her doorstep and they end up at lottie with the other people she shared this deep trauma and belief and it all comes flooding back. Maybe the reason her life wasnāt the best, she lost Tai and now has cancer is a punishment for no longer believing/worshiping(she also sees her teammates lives arenāt any better and Tai is sleepwalking again) So of course she might fall back into that mindset and jump at the chance to fix things.
Idk if Iām getting my point across very well. Plus dyslexia is a bitch so sorry for any mistakes. But anyways this is just my two cents and by no means am I calling anyone stupid or something like that if they donāt have this take or agree with me. Just from the first scene of the show we knew the girls would get to a dark place. And this is the beginnings of that. Idk maybe the reason some of us are shocked is because so many people, myself included, thought there would be a spilt and weād have 2 factions of survivors a ābadā one and a āgoodā one
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And like this is just me but I kinda understand how she got like this.
I grew up in a religious cult, more accurately my mom grew up in one and she started working on getting out by the time I was 14. When you are a part these places you go ALL in, when you truly believe the teachings you believe it all when the stuff other might find fucked up and if your group as a violent āGodā you will do whatever it takes so that wrathful eye never lands on you. Youāll even be cruel at times to keep others in check for that wrathful go
Van was one of the first to start believing and Liv during s1 talked about how Van js the kind of athlete that would believe all kind of things like never washing your socks you wear during a game or other superstitious stuff like that. She nearly died 3 times in s1 and started to believe it was for some greater purpose, sheās seen the ānonbelieversā die horribly. She has one moment of falter after Shaunas baby died but I can see her intense belief twisting that into another ānonbelieverā being punished(Shauna not joining Lottieās therapy and getting upset that she was whispering weird shit to her baby) tai also stopped sleepwalking when she became a ātrue believerā(I donāt think van knew it was all for show in the beginning)
So when lottie is hurt and possibly dying j can see her suddenly snapping back into fully believing than javi is āchosenā and this just reinforces what she already thinks is true. So by the time sheās talking to Travis itās cold yes but in her mind she needs to always be thankful and grateful for whatever gifts the wilderness gives them, wither itās food or getting to survive. If sheās not always grateful the wilderness might chose her next as a punishment, or take Tai away.
Than sheās rescued and sheās back home with an abusive mom and life isnāt that great and she starts to lose that faith. She gets to a point where she no longer believes(especially when she gets cancer which for her would feel so utterly pointless) than Tai comes to her doorstep and they end up at lottie with the other people she shared this deep trauma and belief and it all comes flooding back. Maybe the reason her life wasnāt the best, she lost Tai and now has cancer is a punishment for no longer believing/worshiping(she also sees her teammates lives arenāt any better and Tai is sleepwalking again) So of course she might fall back into that mindset and jump at the chance to fix things.
Idk if Iām getting my point across very well. Plus dyslexia is a bitch so sorry for any mistakes. But anyways this is just my two cents and by no means am I calling anyone stupid or something like that if they donāt have this take or agree with me. Just from the first scene of the show we knew the girls would get to a dark place. And this is the beginnings of that. Idk maybe the reason some of us are shocked is because so many people, myself included, thought there would be a spilt and weād have 2 factions of survivors a ābadā one and a āgoodā one
2023.06.04 21:56 Angel-Mysterious 23 [M4F] Brazil(GMT-3)/Anywhere - If you could have one power, what would it be?
Hiya people, how've you been? I hope you're having a wonderful day. š
Btw, I'd love to have invisibility or teleportation, IMO it's awesome.
I'm just a guy who loves learning new languages and hopes to become a polyglot and a translator someday. I'm here to to find my soulmate, someone who will make my days better and my life colorfull, someone who will be my safe point and that I'll be able to love with everything I've got, without holding back any feelings. Anyway, I'm looking for a long term LDR that could lead to something more, I don't like this hook up culture thing at all.
Here are some things about me so you can get to know me better:
My dealbreakers (because we all have things that we don't like, right?):
Wait! Just one more thing before you talk to me, I know I'm not the best person to talk to, but I'll try my best, so be patient with me. And I'm not that fluent in English yet, so be aware of it, and PLEASE don't let me do all the talking lol. š
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Btw, I'd love to have invisibility or teleportation, IMO it's awesome.
I'm just a guy who loves learning new languages and hopes to become a polyglot and a translator someday. I'm here to to find my soulmate, someone who will make my days better and my life colorfull, someone who will be my safe point and that I'll be able to love with everything I've got, without holding back any feelings. Anyway, I'm looking for a long term LDR that could lead to something more, I don't like this hook up culture thing at all.
Here are some things about me so you can get to know me better:
- I'm 5'7 (1.70 cm) tall, with white skin, short brown hair, brown eyes, and a little bit chubby 167lbs (76 kg), but I'm working out to get in better shape. We can exchange pictures early on to get to know each other better, as physical attraction is kinda important.
- As you already know I love learning new languages, I already now Portuguese (my native language), English (still working on it), and a little of Spanish and LIBRAS (Brazilian Sign Language), but I have plans to learn more in the future.
- I love watching animes, series, and sitcoms; reading books and manga; enjoying memes; practicing meditation, and so on.
- I love dogs, ducks, and I don't like cats that much.
- Strictly monogamous.
- Sometimes can get attached to people easily.
- I neither smoke nor drink alcohol.
My dealbreakers (because we all have things that we don't like, right?):
- Smoke or 420 friendly (gosh I hate it).
- Drink too much.
- I'm a super lovey-dovey guy like "uwu I luv u sweetie pie," so if you don't like it, unfortunately, I'm not for you.
- If you don't like to give and take affection.
- Don't wanna have kids.
- Older than 28.
- Takes too long to reply.
Wait! Just one more thing before you talk to me, I know I'm not the best person to talk to, but I'll try my best, so be patient with me. And I'm not that fluent in English yet, so be aware of it, and PLEASE don't let me do all the talking lol. š
2023.06.04 21:56 cricketalmond Can you have PTSD from your āoldā mental health problems?
About two/three years ago my mental health was just horrible. It got to the point of self harming, severe depression, severe anxiety, suicidal thought and actions at times. The only things that would āhelpā was self harming, drinking and drugs. Along with all that I had a really unstable home life to the point where social services had to come in. I was struggling in college. Got raped by the only person I trusted at the time and didnāt really have any friends or family to go to about it.
Iām a lot better now. And I know I have some symptoms of PTSD, since I used to have it really bad from the time I got raped. But idk if I can have PTSD from that time of my life. Looking back it seems like I was just a completely different person. But it scares me a little how much Iāve changed. Maybe I havenāt changed at all and itās just sitting in the back of my head waiting to come back outā¦
So if anyone knows please let me know! Cause I feel like I just shouldnāt care. Or at least not as much as I do.
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Iām a lot better now. And I know I have some symptoms of PTSD, since I used to have it really bad from the time I got raped. But idk if I can have PTSD from that time of my life. Looking back it seems like I was just a completely different person. But it scares me a little how much Iāve changed. Maybe I havenāt changed at all and itās just sitting in the back of my head waiting to come back outā¦
So if anyone knows please let me know! Cause I feel like I just shouldnāt care. Or at least not as much as I do.
2023.06.04 21:56 Angel-Mysterious 23 [M4F] Brazil(GMT-3)/Anywhere - If you could have one power, what would it be? [relationship]
Hiya people, how've you been? I hope you're having a wonderful day. š
Btw, I'd love to have invisibility or teleportation, IMO it's awesome.
I'm just a guy who loves learning new languages and hopes to become a polyglot and a translator someday. I'm here to to find my soulmate, someone who will make my days better and my life colorfull, someone who will be my safe point and that I'll be able to love with everything I've got, without holding back any feelings. Anyway, I'm looking for a long term LDR that could lead to something more, I don't like this hook up culture thing at all.
Here are some things about me so you can get to know me better:
My dealbreakers (because we all have things that we don't like, right?):
Wait! Just one more thing before you talk to me, I know I'm not the best person to talk to, but I'll try my best, so be patient with me. And I'm not that fluent in English yet, so be aware of it, and PLEASE don't let me do all the talking lol. š
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Btw, I'd love to have invisibility or teleportation, IMO it's awesome.
I'm just a guy who loves learning new languages and hopes to become a polyglot and a translator someday. I'm here to to find my soulmate, someone who will make my days better and my life colorfull, someone who will be my safe point and that I'll be able to love with everything I've got, without holding back any feelings. Anyway, I'm looking for a long term LDR that could lead to something more, I don't like this hook up culture thing at all.
Here are some things about me so you can get to know me better:
- I'm 5'7 (1.70 cm) tall, with white skin, short brown hair, brown eyes, and a little bit chubby 167lbs (76 kg), but I'm working out to get in better shape. We can exchange pictures early on to get to know each other better, as physical attraction is kinda important.
- As you already know I love learning new languages, I already now Portuguese (my native language), English (still working on it), and a little of Spanish and LIBRAS (Brazilian Sign Language), but I have plans to learn more in the future.
- I love watching animes, series, and sitcoms; reading books and manga; enjoying memes; practicing meditation, and so on.
- I love dogs, ducks, and I don't like cats that much.
- Strictly monogamous.
- Sometimes can get attached to people easily.
- I neither smoke nor drink alcohol.
My dealbreakers (because we all have things that we don't like, right?):
- Smoke or 420 friendly (gosh I hate it).
- Drink too much.
- I'm a super lovey-dovey guy like "uwu I luv u sweetie pie," so if you don't like it, unfortunately, I'm not for you.
- If you don't like to give and take affection.
- Don't wanna have kids.
- Older than 28.
- Takes too long to reply.
Wait! Just one more thing before you talk to me, I know I'm not the best person to talk to, but I'll try my best, so be patient with me. And I'm not that fluent in English yet, so be aware of it, and PLEASE don't let me do all the talking lol. š
2023.06.04 21:56 Suitable-Worth-3920 My (25F) childhood best friend (24F) is seemingly codependent and unhappy that Iām in a relationship.
TL;DR: I (25F) am in a new relationship and my best friend (24F) is extremely possessive, passive aggressive, and weird about it.
My best friend and I have been extremely close since we were about 13. Weāve lived together for about 6 years now.
I started dating when I was young, while she did not. She has never been in a real romantic relationship, save for some middle and high school situations and short-lived flings. I got into my first serious adult relationship when I was 21. We had some issues adjusting and figuring out how to make sure we still had time to hang out, but it pretty quickly turned into me having to schedule people into my life to make sure everyone had equal time. It was draining and difficult, and I was met with passive aggressive behavior from my best friend if I slipped up or made other plans. This caused many arguments between my partner and I.
We broke up after almost three years and she was supportive of me through the breakup. After a year of being single and our friendship being smooth sailing, I got into a relationship in February. As of writing this post, weāve been together a little over three months. My partner (31M) is wonderful and everyone around me likes him and thinks heās great for me. The day I started talking to him, her demeanor toward me changed. She became defensive and uncomfortable at any mention of him. Everyone else in my life was excited and supportive of me, but she just wasnāt.
My boyfriend and I initially met online and he was out of town for the week, so we were texting quite a bit in the very beginning. She told me several times that I āwasnāt presentā because I was on my phone. When I would excitedly tell her things about our conversation, like cool things we had in common or coincidences in our lives, I would be met with passive aggressive body language. It was clear she didnāt want to hear anything about him. It hurt my feelings but I figured she would come out of it. She also mentioned that she wasnāt āemotionally readyā for me to get into another relationship, which struck me as odd.
She fought as things progressed naturally within my relationship. She and I had plans on my birthday to go to a casual dinner, and I thought it would be a good chance for her to officially meet my boyfriend if he also came. I also just wanted him to be there to celebrate my day with me. When I brought it up, she immediately said she didnāt want to go. I spent several hours of my birthday trying to convince her that just because I wanted another person there doesnāt mean I didnāt want her there. It was important to me that they both came.
She started making plans on days I spent with my partner, and claimed that it was the only way it would āhurt lessā that I was leaving. She even said she felt the need to leave the house first to āfeel betterā about me going out. She would get upset with me for not continuing our text conversation when I was with him. She started getting frustrated with me for not telling her about my dates with him, even though she didnāt ask and seemed unenthused and uncomfortable when I did mention details.
When I finally confronted her about her actions, she admitted that she was afraid I wouldnāt āneed herā anymore and that I was leaving her. I explained to her that different relationships fulfill different personal needs, and that she couldnāt possibly fulfill my need for a romantic partner, and vice versa. I assured her that she is still important to me and that I still value our relationship. Unfortunately this conversation changed absolutely nothing.
I thought having my boyfriend over more often and spending time with both of them would help her. She likes him, they have good conversation, and they get along very well. It has nothing to do with him as a person. Still, she tells me she doesnāt enjoy being around us and it makes her extremely anxious. She actively avoids socializing with us and will stay in her room. There was one night I was making the three of us dinner and she decided halfway through me cooking that she wasnāt comfortable and got up and went to her room for the rest of the night.
She hates being in public with us, especially if we hold hands or walk together. She guilts me for doing these things. We went to a restaurant recently in a group setting for a graduation celebration. I sat next to my boyfriend and across from her. We got up to go wash our hands in the restroom and when we were out of earshot of the group, she said, āyou suck for not sitting next to me. Fuck you.ā She later claimed that she was just joking/being dramatic when I told her how hurtful it was. She did apologize, but said that she āhas dramatic and emotional initial reactionsā and itās ājust how she is.ā
She gets upset anytime I have āunexpectedā plans with my boyfriend. He has random days off, and we have opposite schedules, so itās hard to see him sometimes. I see him two times per week. She and I live together, and I see her every day. I guess I donāt see it as a big deal to sometimes go out with my partner unexpectedly. She makes me feel extremely guilty and like a bad friend when I do this.
I feel I should also mention that she does have a life outside of me. Friends, family, work, hobbies, etc. Itās not like Iām her entire world and Iābe abandoned her in any way. I always make sure I have time for her, as I care about her and itās important to me as well.
I feel incredibly unsupported by her. Iām extremely happy in my relationship and everyone else in my life seems to be very happy for me and interested in getting to know my boyfriend. It hurts me that she seems to see this as a burden and canāt be excited for me.
There is nothing in this post that I havenāt said to her or confronted her with. She has apologized- rather genuinely- upon confrontation several times, and knows what sheās doing, but continues the same cycles. I truly donāt want this to be the end of our friendship, but I feel like I canāt get through to her and nothing is changing. I also donāt want this to become an issue between my boyfriend and I. What do I do? How can I approach this situation in a productive manner?
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My best friend and I have been extremely close since we were about 13. Weāve lived together for about 6 years now.
I started dating when I was young, while she did not. She has never been in a real romantic relationship, save for some middle and high school situations and short-lived flings. I got into my first serious adult relationship when I was 21. We had some issues adjusting and figuring out how to make sure we still had time to hang out, but it pretty quickly turned into me having to schedule people into my life to make sure everyone had equal time. It was draining and difficult, and I was met with passive aggressive behavior from my best friend if I slipped up or made other plans. This caused many arguments between my partner and I.
We broke up after almost three years and she was supportive of me through the breakup. After a year of being single and our friendship being smooth sailing, I got into a relationship in February. As of writing this post, weāve been together a little over three months. My partner (31M) is wonderful and everyone around me likes him and thinks heās great for me. The day I started talking to him, her demeanor toward me changed. She became defensive and uncomfortable at any mention of him. Everyone else in my life was excited and supportive of me, but she just wasnāt.
My boyfriend and I initially met online and he was out of town for the week, so we were texting quite a bit in the very beginning. She told me several times that I āwasnāt presentā because I was on my phone. When I would excitedly tell her things about our conversation, like cool things we had in common or coincidences in our lives, I would be met with passive aggressive body language. It was clear she didnāt want to hear anything about him. It hurt my feelings but I figured she would come out of it. She also mentioned that she wasnāt āemotionally readyā for me to get into another relationship, which struck me as odd.
She fought as things progressed naturally within my relationship. She and I had plans on my birthday to go to a casual dinner, and I thought it would be a good chance for her to officially meet my boyfriend if he also came. I also just wanted him to be there to celebrate my day with me. When I brought it up, she immediately said she didnāt want to go. I spent several hours of my birthday trying to convince her that just because I wanted another person there doesnāt mean I didnāt want her there. It was important to me that they both came.
She started making plans on days I spent with my partner, and claimed that it was the only way it would āhurt lessā that I was leaving. She even said she felt the need to leave the house first to āfeel betterā about me going out. She would get upset with me for not continuing our text conversation when I was with him. She started getting frustrated with me for not telling her about my dates with him, even though she didnāt ask and seemed unenthused and uncomfortable when I did mention details.
When I finally confronted her about her actions, she admitted that she was afraid I wouldnāt āneed herā anymore and that I was leaving her. I explained to her that different relationships fulfill different personal needs, and that she couldnāt possibly fulfill my need for a romantic partner, and vice versa. I assured her that she is still important to me and that I still value our relationship. Unfortunately this conversation changed absolutely nothing.
I thought having my boyfriend over more often and spending time with both of them would help her. She likes him, they have good conversation, and they get along very well. It has nothing to do with him as a person. Still, she tells me she doesnāt enjoy being around us and it makes her extremely anxious. She actively avoids socializing with us and will stay in her room. There was one night I was making the three of us dinner and she decided halfway through me cooking that she wasnāt comfortable and got up and went to her room for the rest of the night.
She hates being in public with us, especially if we hold hands or walk together. She guilts me for doing these things. We went to a restaurant recently in a group setting for a graduation celebration. I sat next to my boyfriend and across from her. We got up to go wash our hands in the restroom and when we were out of earshot of the group, she said, āyou suck for not sitting next to me. Fuck you.ā She later claimed that she was just joking/being dramatic when I told her how hurtful it was. She did apologize, but said that she āhas dramatic and emotional initial reactionsā and itās ājust how she is.ā
She gets upset anytime I have āunexpectedā plans with my boyfriend. He has random days off, and we have opposite schedules, so itās hard to see him sometimes. I see him two times per week. She and I live together, and I see her every day. I guess I donāt see it as a big deal to sometimes go out with my partner unexpectedly. She makes me feel extremely guilty and like a bad friend when I do this.
I feel I should also mention that she does have a life outside of me. Friends, family, work, hobbies, etc. Itās not like Iām her entire world and Iābe abandoned her in any way. I always make sure I have time for her, as I care about her and itās important to me as well.
I feel incredibly unsupported by her. Iām extremely happy in my relationship and everyone else in my life seems to be very happy for me and interested in getting to know my boyfriend. It hurts me that she seems to see this as a burden and canāt be excited for me.
There is nothing in this post that I havenāt said to her or confronted her with. She has apologized- rather genuinely- upon confrontation several times, and knows what sheās doing, but continues the same cycles. I truly donāt want this to be the end of our friendship, but I feel like I canāt get through to her and nothing is changing. I also donāt want this to become an issue between my boyfriend and I. What do I do? How can I approach this situation in a productive manner?
2023.06.04 21:56 3pmactivities Is there a collective name for people like this
Let me tell you the background: Mother married my father at 19 to get out of her abusive household. They had me early on. Iām an only child. We lived with grandparents until I was 13. My grandfather did everything for me, I love him, he worked, played, taught me things, was so involved. My parents sat there watching Tv.
They never provided emotion or need to me. Going through teens, I was told how Iād put on weight, hair needed doing. I wasnāt allowed out so started lying to get out. They still didnāt have jobs, lived off benefits. When I was 16 my mother got a job in another country, my father followed and said I needed to sort myself out or live with them. Itās like I came of age and they were done with the legality of parenting.
Theyāre rubbish with finances, Iāve always been a scape goat to help them with bills. Theyāre in debt. Iāve got my own house and family, successful career and theyāve never said they were proud. Never came to my graduation, I was interviewed on tv once, they never watched it.
My mother thinks she is friends with everyone and talks to people like sheās best friends with them. Buys them cards for random anniversaries to make it known she cares. Prioritises social life. She prides herself on birthday cards received each year (actually I think she keeps them and puts them up each year). She forgot my birthday last year and the year before. She is surly and miserable looking, Iām scared I look like her as I get older. I donāt want to.
I donāt want them in my life. I havenāt seen them for over 12 months but sheās started texting asking to meet up. They havenāt been to my house for 6 years. I donāt like this contact.
What do you think? Are they narcissistic?
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They never provided emotion or need to me. Going through teens, I was told how Iād put on weight, hair needed doing. I wasnāt allowed out so started lying to get out. They still didnāt have jobs, lived off benefits. When I was 16 my mother got a job in another country, my father followed and said I needed to sort myself out or live with them. Itās like I came of age and they were done with the legality of parenting.
Theyāre rubbish with finances, Iāve always been a scape goat to help them with bills. Theyāre in debt. Iāve got my own house and family, successful career and theyāve never said they were proud. Never came to my graduation, I was interviewed on tv once, they never watched it.
My mother thinks she is friends with everyone and talks to people like sheās best friends with them. Buys them cards for random anniversaries to make it known she cares. Prioritises social life. She prides herself on birthday cards received each year (actually I think she keeps them and puts them up each year). She forgot my birthday last year and the year before. She is surly and miserable looking, Iām scared I look like her as I get older. I donāt want to.
I donāt want them in my life. I havenāt seen them for over 12 months but sheās started texting asking to meet up. They havenāt been to my house for 6 years. I donāt like this contact.
What do you think? Are they narcissistic?
2023.06.04 21:55 mar805cus1 My ex-girlfriend it's so strange and bozo
Hello, guys i am Marco and i want to talk about something that i found out. Me and my Gf broke up like 2 months a go for the 3 times i don't got wrong. 2 week's go i found that's she was already with another one, and that's strage because we broke up 1/2 moth's a go and she is already with another one.
Really i don't care about that but about his boyfriend. During a dispute with her when we were practically broking up she said that i was ugly and she despised me in every way. If I was disgusting and I had a little one-sided eyelash almost imperceptible, this guy who has her now in comparison to me he sucks but obviously he doesnāt give a shit, he does it just to get attention.
The thing that makes me sick and that this guy is 16 years old like me and already has 3 tattoos of which 1 is all over his arm, I already hate seeing the small tattoos, imagine a huge tattoo on the arm of a 16 year old.
Between letting that sheās 2009 so she just turned 14, smokes and thinks sheās someone important, when sheās a failure in person both at the level of studies and life choice. Then she is possessive, she could post what she wanted even the filthiest things on instagram, I instead even if I put a picture of myself in the mirror and I had to be scolded for a photo where you see absolutely nothing, but she photos in her bra you?
Of people who are just looking for relationships just to be cool and to show that theyāre someone important, thereās a lot of them that have been away from these beings that are possessive and therefore probably also suffering from some mental disorder.
Now itās up to this guy who chose this psychopath, he maybe the choice because he does not know her, but she chose it only because he has tattoos and then put a post on instagram where you see her with her boyfriend all tattooed where they have 4 years difference, maybe maybe you can become someone
Not to mention all the times she smoked something she absolutely had to do a story on instagram to show that she smoke and that she was a baby queen and a boss! ahhh.. this girls!!
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Really i don't care about that but about his boyfriend. During a dispute with her when we were practically broking up she said that i was ugly and she despised me in every way. If I was disgusting and I had a little one-sided eyelash almost imperceptible, this guy who has her now in comparison to me he sucks but obviously he doesnāt give a shit, he does it just to get attention.
The thing that makes me sick and that this guy is 16 years old like me and already has 3 tattoos of which 1 is all over his arm, I already hate seeing the small tattoos, imagine a huge tattoo on the arm of a 16 year old.
Between letting that sheās 2009 so she just turned 14, smokes and thinks sheās someone important, when sheās a failure in person both at the level of studies and life choice. Then she is possessive, she could post what she wanted even the filthiest things on instagram, I instead even if I put a picture of myself in the mirror and I had to be scolded for a photo where you see absolutely nothing, but she photos in her bra you?
Of people who are just looking for relationships just to be cool and to show that theyāre someone important, thereās a lot of them that have been away from these beings that are possessive and therefore probably also suffering from some mental disorder.
Now itās up to this guy who chose this psychopath, he maybe the choice because he does not know her, but she chose it only because he has tattoos and then put a post on instagram where you see her with her boyfriend all tattooed where they have 4 years difference, maybe maybe you can become someone
Not to mention all the times she smoked something she absolutely had to do a story on instagram to show that she smoke and that she was a baby queen and a boss! ahhh.. this girls!!
2023.06.04 21:55 Suitable_Egg8211 My opinions and ideas of vr [sorry not great at writing out my brain]
I have realized my preferences, ideas of fun, and ideas for improvement differ from most, on the topic of Vr and what I want "out of the experience". My first gaming system was a Sega genesis, got that when i was around 5 years old. With sonic 2. Good old days... So naturally I came into gaming before 3d really even made it to consols, I remember once it did, (playstation) , and then Nintendo 64.. those were amazing times, and the way games were made and structured (level design, music, story, artistic direction) IN MY OPINION, was more creative, fun, and replayable. Of course I'm not discounting the greats like halo, etc etc. But there is some thing about the NON super realistic graphics that has a place in my heart.
So as to not drag this on TOO far about retro gaming, lets connect the two (retro gaming and VR)
I find the hyper realism in so many games, and the cookie cutter setup of game play and story and etc, is making gaming boring.
I'm afraid we may be going that same route with VR. See, my foray into vr was not inspired by ready player one. I actually have never seen the movie. But it seems most large vr content creators like to reference the movie and their hopes to be able to "full dive". Where as I'm enjoying this stage of vr. I do wish there were more games and more creative content, but I feel we are so focused on making the tech better, or making the graphics look better, we are enjoying what we have as much, or being as creative with it.
DONT GET ME WRONG, I'm not saying I don't want that [full dive] available, or that it shouldn't be. But, I'm not really into replacing reality with vr. I don't want to sound pretentious about that, but it's just... not my thing.
And so, games being hyper realistic in vr doesn't really excite me, or the whole , "physics based game play for immersion" Is not the pennacle of vr gaming for me. It is cool some times. But I find it makes melee combat feel silly.
I just want good games with fun game play mechanics, and that aren't all cookie cutter, or take 15 years to develop bc they look like real life, but the game play is bland and predictable.
Vr has so much potential, we all say that and mean it. But I think maybe our definitions of potential may vary. I don't think any of us are wrong.
And I'm not saying I wouldn't want to "full dive" sky dive. Or some thing like that.
But I am saying, I'm not clocking every new vr development hoping that it gets me closer to (full dive)
I'll try to wrap this up, I also prefer my rift cv1, over my quest 2 for PC vr.
There is some thing about the quest 2 I just can't put my finger on... that doesn't hit the spot in terms of feeling as good as my cv1. Idk if it's field of view, or maybe I can get my IPD Perfect with the cv1 but not Q2, or compression from airlink/link cable... idk. But I sincerely hope for more PC vr headsets that are affordable. I don't really care much about pixel density as much as I care about field of view and outside in tracking.
This is getting long I suck at expressing my thoughts And I hope I don't come off as a butthole or opinionated. I want all of us with our different preferences to have options. I want all of us to win!
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So as to not drag this on TOO far about retro gaming, lets connect the two (retro gaming and VR)
I find the hyper realism in so many games, and the cookie cutter setup of game play and story and etc, is making gaming boring.
I'm afraid we may be going that same route with VR. See, my foray into vr was not inspired by ready player one. I actually have never seen the movie. But it seems most large vr content creators like to reference the movie and their hopes to be able to "full dive". Where as I'm enjoying this stage of vr. I do wish there were more games and more creative content, but I feel we are so focused on making the tech better, or making the graphics look better, we are enjoying what we have as much, or being as creative with it.
DONT GET ME WRONG, I'm not saying I don't want that [full dive] available, or that it shouldn't be. But, I'm not really into replacing reality with vr. I don't want to sound pretentious about that, but it's just... not my thing.
And so, games being hyper realistic in vr doesn't really excite me, or the whole , "physics based game play for immersion" Is not the pennacle of vr gaming for me. It is cool some times. But I find it makes melee combat feel silly.
I just want good games with fun game play mechanics, and that aren't all cookie cutter, or take 15 years to develop bc they look like real life, but the game play is bland and predictable.
Vr has so much potential, we all say that and mean it. But I think maybe our definitions of potential may vary. I don't think any of us are wrong.
And I'm not saying I wouldn't want to "full dive" sky dive. Or some thing like that.
But I am saying, I'm not clocking every new vr development hoping that it gets me closer to (full dive)
I'll try to wrap this up, I also prefer my rift cv1, over my quest 2 for PC vr.
There is some thing about the quest 2 I just can't put my finger on... that doesn't hit the spot in terms of feeling as good as my cv1. Idk if it's field of view, or maybe I can get my IPD Perfect with the cv1 but not Q2, or compression from airlink/link cable... idk. But I sincerely hope for more PC vr headsets that are affordable. I don't really care much about pixel density as much as I care about field of view and outside in tracking.
This is getting long I suck at expressing my thoughts And I hope I don't come off as a butthole or opinionated. I want all of us with our different preferences to have options. I want all of us to win!
2023.06.04 21:55 TCIE Am I in a good position to buy a house?
My wife and I are looking at some houses and we've been crunching numbers inside of some mortgage calculators to figure out how much we'll be paying and how that will affect our finances.
After looking at a house we really loved and crunching some numbers, it turns out that at the end of the month we'll be about +$300 to $400 positive income flow at the end of each month.
Just some context, I'm a single provider with 2 kids and bring in $4700 AFTER TAX.
Our total household expenditures every month is around $3550
Monthly Rent is $620 Utilities and bills average: $600
New Mortgage is gonna be around $1,650
I realize that my rent is insanely low, and I'm apprehensive to jump into home ownership especially since my "living space" payment is going to jump close to 2.5x the amount that it is now. I'm just tired of renting and want to own my own home to start building equity and stop paying my land lord's mortgage.
After my last post here, I realized that we're spending far too much money on other things we don't need such as eating out, amazon, and random small purchases when we're out and about. So it's possible that once we tighten the budget up a little bit our positive cash flow may be around +$500 each month. I haven't had time to really get into the specifics with our budget since life has been so busy.
After closing on this house we should have around 20k left in the bank. Am I reaching too high, or being too cautious? Is 20k a good "emergency fund" if we're adding around $400-$500 each month to it? Thanks for the advice all.
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After looking at a house we really loved and crunching some numbers, it turns out that at the end of the month we'll be about +$300 to $400 positive income flow at the end of each month.
Just some context, I'm a single provider with 2 kids and bring in $4700 AFTER TAX.
Our total household expenditures every month is around $3550
Monthly Rent is $620 Utilities and bills average: $600
New Mortgage is gonna be around $1,650
I realize that my rent is insanely low, and I'm apprehensive to jump into home ownership especially since my "living space" payment is going to jump close to 2.5x the amount that it is now. I'm just tired of renting and want to own my own home to start building equity and stop paying my land lord's mortgage.
After my last post here, I realized that we're spending far too much money on other things we don't need such as eating out, amazon, and random small purchases when we're out and about. So it's possible that once we tighten the budget up a little bit our positive cash flow may be around +$500 each month. I haven't had time to really get into the specifics with our budget since life has been so busy.
After closing on this house we should have around 20k left in the bank. Am I reaching too high, or being too cautious? Is 20k a good "emergency fund" if we're adding around $400-$500 each month to it? Thanks for the advice all.
2023.06.04 21:55 Then-Ad-3987 Am I in trouble for accidentally setting off fire alarm?
I had decided to have a snack at 3:00 A.M and make popcorn, Iāve been doing that since the beginning of the academic year whenever I felt like a quick snack. After I was done cooking the fire alarm set off and when I turned around I had realized the kitchen had been filled with smoke. I had decided to follow the protocol and head downstairs to the exit (I live in student accommodation). Within 10 minutes 4 fire trucks had showed up, after the alarm stopped ringing I went back to my flat and saw a firefighter in our kitchen speaking to my flat mates. I informed the firefighter that I was the one who set it off while cooking and he took my name. Iām a international student and Iām scared that I will be fined or have this affect any future applications to stay in the country, this is the first time I have done something close to illegal in my life. Am I in any trouble? Have I committed a crime?
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2023.06.04 21:55 Hour_Schedule9311 Don't know how much longer I can do this :(
I feel so hopeless right now. I have spent the whole day in a state of panic and anxiety and all i've been doing is just sitting and watching TV. I fear panic attacks so much that I will get anxious about them and have them even when I am relaxed at home and doing nothing stressful and it is driving me insane. I am sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, and I hate missing out on things I want to do. I am trying to do the DARE method but it's so hard to not try it with getting rid of the symptoms in mind. I have been working so hard for weeks to try and overcome this and I am just so insanely exhausted at this point. I don't know what to do, all I do now is sit around and wait for my next therapy appointment. Exposures aren't working as well as they used to. I don't know what to do and I just want to cry all the time over the fact that this is my life and my summer right now.
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2023.06.04 21:55 Telecaster14 Direct headphone rig
Because my life situation currently is limited on time I can use an actual amp, I began running my board into my scarlet solo with an amp sim plug-in. Sounds fine. However, Iāve noticed that the time it takes to set it up (get my laptop, plug everything in), paired with the distractions of a computer has led me to stop playing as much. I would like to be able to go straight into my board and then into headphones, but I still want it to sound great. Iāve been researching the UA Dream/Ruby, Iridium, IR-200, etc and was close to pulling the trigger on the Ruby but Iām wondering if thereās a cheaper way? I really want the Ruby as a 1 trick pony as a clean platform (my real amp is a super reverb). It seems like some of the magic is using IRās so it got me thinking -
What would it be like if my chain was something like this:
Guitar > pedalboard > IR Loader > Headphone amp.
Has anyone tried this? Iām specifically looking at the old blood noise headphone amp paired with the TC Electronic IR loader. Do I need some type of āpreampā pedal or an EQ pedal? Or does my pedalboard serve as that? (I do not currently run an EQ on the board) Do I just get the Ruby? If the Ruby actually had a headphone out I would have pulled the trigger, but I need to get a headphone amp or powered interface (the scarlet runs on bus only) to use it with headphones.
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What would it be like if my chain was something like this:
Guitar > pedalboard > IR Loader > Headphone amp.
Has anyone tried this? Iām specifically looking at the old blood noise headphone amp paired with the TC Electronic IR loader. Do I need some type of āpreampā pedal or an EQ pedal? Or does my pedalboard serve as that? (I do not currently run an EQ on the board) Do I just get the Ruby? If the Ruby actually had a headphone out I would have pulled the trigger, but I need to get a headphone amp or powered interface (the scarlet runs on bus only) to use it with headphones.
2023.06.04 21:55 shortfatandugly93 Would I be the asshole if I ruined my maternal extended family's lives
Trigger Warning for childhood SA and abuse
My maternal family is awful and ruined my life. My mother's brother SAed me from the time I was in elementary school to the time I was almost done with middle/intermediate. It left me with a bunch of mental and physical disabilities.
The issue with the rest of the family on my mother's side, minus my mother and the youngest uncle, they knew what he was capable of and what he had done in the past to 2 of his youngest sisters. They knew he was babysitting us. But never said a word. And they are currently acting like it never happened and one of his abused sisters INVITED HIM TO LIVE WITH HER AND HER 2 YOUNG DAUGHTERS!!!!!
And on top of that my mom's mother straight up told my mom recently, after hearing just a small, but impactful amount of issues it's caused, that IT WASNT A BIG DEAL AND I NEED TO GET OVER IT!!!
so I have been posting my story with his name and city and my mom's mother's name and city. In several different forums on here, over 300 Craigslist ads, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and tiktok. I will also be paying for an ad in the newspaper near them as soon as I can. Not only that, but on a neighborhood app my cousin found for me after he found out what happened. I have also been having him and a few other people do the exact same thing.
Now I really honestly don't care what happens to those people, but I was told I'm an asshole because the 2 sisters he did it to as well live there and are in constant contact with him and could get caught up in the crossfire.
I feel that even though they were victims, they chose to not divulge to my mother the ramifications of what having my mother's brother watch us. They were enablers. Still are. And I dont feel like they deserve a second thought.
So would I be the asshole if I ruined my maternal extended family's lives?
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My maternal family is awful and ruined my life. My mother's brother SAed me from the time I was in elementary school to the time I was almost done with middle/intermediate. It left me with a bunch of mental and physical disabilities.
The issue with the rest of the family on my mother's side, minus my mother and the youngest uncle, they knew what he was capable of and what he had done in the past to 2 of his youngest sisters. They knew he was babysitting us. But never said a word. And they are currently acting like it never happened and one of his abused sisters INVITED HIM TO LIVE WITH HER AND HER 2 YOUNG DAUGHTERS!!!!!
And on top of that my mom's mother straight up told my mom recently, after hearing just a small, but impactful amount of issues it's caused, that IT WASNT A BIG DEAL AND I NEED TO GET OVER IT!!!
so I have been posting my story with his name and city and my mom's mother's name and city. In several different forums on here, over 300 Craigslist ads, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and tiktok. I will also be paying for an ad in the newspaper near them as soon as I can. Not only that, but on a neighborhood app my cousin found for me after he found out what happened. I have also been having him and a few other people do the exact same thing.
Now I really honestly don't care what happens to those people, but I was told I'm an asshole because the 2 sisters he did it to as well live there and are in constant contact with him and could get caught up in the crossfire.
I feel that even though they were victims, they chose to not divulge to my mother the ramifications of what having my mother's brother watch us. They were enablers. Still are. And I dont feel like they deserve a second thought.
So would I be the asshole if I ruined my maternal extended family's lives?
2023.06.04 21:55 s-manthesummerman Is it Best to use Twitch Gaming on Computer? Cuz I ain't going anywhere on my Twitch with just 2 Phones like I don't even know what I'm doing if you guys think working Twitch on the Computer is a lot easier so then I know to get a computer at some point in my life.
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2023.06.04 21:55 TheHierothot I have to talk to her. I want to tell her why I went NC,but I donāt think sheāll listen.
I (28f) have a narc grandma who was my actual best friend for years and years. I cannot emphasize how close we were. We went shopping, went to movies, went to restaurants, saw plays, cooked together, played cards, and she taught me how to read tarot and make coffee, both of which I do for a living now.
But sheās an alcoholic. She drinks at least a bottle of wine per night, even though she is a type 2 diabeticāshe has switched doctors because they told her to stop drinking. And while I never had a physical dependency on alcohol, I certainly had a drinking problem when we were close (sober 3 years now). We both have BPD, but she doesnāt believe the diagnosis is accurate, while I take a high dose of mood stabilizers to manage mine.
Which brings us to the reason I went NC. I went on antidepressants, mood stabilizers, and I finally got diagnosed and medicated for ADHD at age 25. My grandma is STAUNCHLY against medication, even her diabetes meds (she takes them, but āresents the fact that she is dependent on a medicationā at all.
This all happened just a few weeks after I gave up alcohol. As the meds kicked in, I started setting boundaries and saying things like āyouāre hurting my feelings, please stopā, when her āteasingā went too far (which it often did). Being asked to stop was received with anger and defensiveness, and we grew pretty distant as a result, even though I lived with her at the time.
The last conversation we had before I went NC was a big fight, and she made a comment about me going on medication. I said something to the effect of ācanāt you see that Iām happy now, and that I finally like myself?ā And she responded with āwell I donāt like you like this. You talk back to me too much.ā
This really crushed me. She doesnāt know this, but at the time I went on meds, I actively had a plan for ending my life. The only thing holding me back was not wanting her to be traumatized by finding me.
She later went on to write a letter to my psychiatrist (I have no idea how she got her contact info btw), telling her that my meds gave me a ārage problemā and encouraging her to take me off of them. My psychiatrist immediately saw this as a red flag and directly asked me if she was one of the narcissistic family members Iād mentioned. That is what made me send her a āyou crossed the line, and I canāt talk to you anymore, I feel unsafe having you in my life and I feel betrayed by someone I thought I could trustā etc. message, and hit āblockā.
Now sheās moving out of the house sheās owned since the 1970s. I have a lot of things in her attic storage that Iām just flat-out not ok with losing, like gifts from my late father and mementos from stages in my life that I want to keep for the memories associated. My sister (24f) told me that if I want that stuff back, I better not put it off too long.
Iāve had an anxiety stomachache since she told me. I have no idea how to approach her. I gave her an opportunity to apologize two years ago, and her apology was āIām sorry for interfering with your life.ā She then blatantly refused to actually address any of the issues I wanted to discuss. She also has called me the wrong name (Iām cis, but I just hate my birth name and changed it years ago) via birthday/Christmas cards delivered through my teenage cousin, who, apparently, had tried to tell her that itās really rude to call me by my old name, but to no avail. OH, ALSO she frequently deadnames my trans relative when heās not around, which started shortly before the above-described events, as he came out to her a little later than the rest of us.
Wtf do I do. I have no idea what itās gonna be like, if sheāll be angry or act victimized by my NC, or possibly just treat me with a Customer Service voice and personalityāand Iām honestly not sure which would hurt most. We were so tight, I feel like I will cry as soon as I see her. I also know that she makes me feel terrible about myself, disrespects my boundaries, and blatantly told me that she liked me better when I was depressed. Idk what to do and Iām stressing. Any advice appreciated, including bad advice as a jumping-off point.
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But sheās an alcoholic. She drinks at least a bottle of wine per night, even though she is a type 2 diabeticāshe has switched doctors because they told her to stop drinking. And while I never had a physical dependency on alcohol, I certainly had a drinking problem when we were close (sober 3 years now). We both have BPD, but she doesnāt believe the diagnosis is accurate, while I take a high dose of mood stabilizers to manage mine.
Which brings us to the reason I went NC. I went on antidepressants, mood stabilizers, and I finally got diagnosed and medicated for ADHD at age 25. My grandma is STAUNCHLY against medication, even her diabetes meds (she takes them, but āresents the fact that she is dependent on a medicationā at all.
This all happened just a few weeks after I gave up alcohol. As the meds kicked in, I started setting boundaries and saying things like āyouāre hurting my feelings, please stopā, when her āteasingā went too far (which it often did). Being asked to stop was received with anger and defensiveness, and we grew pretty distant as a result, even though I lived with her at the time.
The last conversation we had before I went NC was a big fight, and she made a comment about me going on medication. I said something to the effect of ācanāt you see that Iām happy now, and that I finally like myself?ā And she responded with āwell I donāt like you like this. You talk back to me too much.ā
This really crushed me. She doesnāt know this, but at the time I went on meds, I actively had a plan for ending my life. The only thing holding me back was not wanting her to be traumatized by finding me.
She later went on to write a letter to my psychiatrist (I have no idea how she got her contact info btw), telling her that my meds gave me a ārage problemā and encouraging her to take me off of them. My psychiatrist immediately saw this as a red flag and directly asked me if she was one of the narcissistic family members Iād mentioned. That is what made me send her a āyou crossed the line, and I canāt talk to you anymore, I feel unsafe having you in my life and I feel betrayed by someone I thought I could trustā etc. message, and hit āblockā.
Now sheās moving out of the house sheās owned since the 1970s. I have a lot of things in her attic storage that Iām just flat-out not ok with losing, like gifts from my late father and mementos from stages in my life that I want to keep for the memories associated. My sister (24f) told me that if I want that stuff back, I better not put it off too long.
Iāve had an anxiety stomachache since she told me. I have no idea how to approach her. I gave her an opportunity to apologize two years ago, and her apology was āIām sorry for interfering with your life.ā She then blatantly refused to actually address any of the issues I wanted to discuss. She also has called me the wrong name (Iām cis, but I just hate my birth name and changed it years ago) via birthday/Christmas cards delivered through my teenage cousin, who, apparently, had tried to tell her that itās really rude to call me by my old name, but to no avail. OH, ALSO she frequently deadnames my trans relative when heās not around, which started shortly before the above-described events, as he came out to her a little later than the rest of us.
Wtf do I do. I have no idea what itās gonna be like, if sheāll be angry or act victimized by my NC, or possibly just treat me with a Customer Service voice and personalityāand Iām honestly not sure which would hurt most. We were so tight, I feel like I will cry as soon as I see her. I also know that she makes me feel terrible about myself, disrespects my boundaries, and blatantly told me that she liked me better when I was depressed. Idk what to do and Iām stressing. Any advice appreciated, including bad advice as a jumping-off point.
2023.06.04 21:55 Think-Intention782 hEDS, two different skin tones, idiopathic blood clots. Any answers?
I don't know if this is the right place, but I really need answers.
A few years ago I became very ill with mono and influenza a at the same time and after this episode I started to experience POTS. Fast forward two years later, I started to have idiopathic UEDVT's and TIA's ( 15 TIA's in the past 4 years), one clot in the brachial artery, one in the internal left and internal right jugular (which I developed on Eliquis and was switched to Warfarin which I will be on for the rest of my life).
I have been tested by Hematologists at Hershey Milton, and I have none of the clotting diseases. I also am negative for Antiphospholipid Syndrome though positive for Lupus Anticoagulation and Von Willebrand Disease off and on (which is in of itself sounds contradictory).
I did however start to notice that my right arm was always positive for Von Willebrand and Lupus Anticoagulation blood tests while the left was always negative (I have had several re-tests by different hematologists and rheumatologists). I don't know if that is just a coincidence.
Another weird things is that since I was little I have had this line down my abdomen that starts at my chin and ends just under my navel, and the skin on both sides of my body are two different shades. It's visibly noticeable (right side has a cool undertone and left has a yellow undertone) especially when I get sunburned.
My eyes have centralized heterochromia and the irises have started turning yellow in the past three years, which my ophthalmologist said he has no answers for.
Here is the rundown of what I have been diagnosed with
POTS
3 Idiopathic UEDVT's
Multiple TIA's
Raynaud's disease
Lymphedema
Chronic Venous Insufficiency
ASA atrial septal aneurism
hEDS
Von Willebrand Disease
Lupus Anticoagulant
Do any of these issues, both the diagnosed and the physical appearance, fit into one disease?
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A few years ago I became very ill with mono and influenza a at the same time and after this episode I started to experience POTS. Fast forward two years later, I started to have idiopathic UEDVT's and TIA's ( 15 TIA's in the past 4 years), one clot in the brachial artery, one in the internal left and internal right jugular (which I developed on Eliquis and was switched to Warfarin which I will be on for the rest of my life).
I have been tested by Hematologists at Hershey Milton, and I have none of the clotting diseases. I also am negative for Antiphospholipid Syndrome though positive for Lupus Anticoagulation and Von Willebrand Disease off and on (which is in of itself sounds contradictory).
I did however start to notice that my right arm was always positive for Von Willebrand and Lupus Anticoagulation blood tests while the left was always negative (I have had several re-tests by different hematologists and rheumatologists). I don't know if that is just a coincidence.
Another weird things is that since I was little I have had this line down my abdomen that starts at my chin and ends just under my navel, and the skin on both sides of my body are two different shades. It's visibly noticeable (right side has a cool undertone and left has a yellow undertone) especially when I get sunburned.
My eyes have centralized heterochromia and the irises have started turning yellow in the past three years, which my ophthalmologist said he has no answers for.
Here is the rundown of what I have been diagnosed with
POTS
3 Idiopathic UEDVT's
Multiple TIA's
Raynaud's disease
Lymphedema
Chronic Venous Insufficiency
ASA atrial septal aneurism
hEDS
Von Willebrand Disease
Lupus Anticoagulant
Do any of these issues, both the diagnosed and the physical appearance, fit into one disease?